Active listening.discipline

We must honestly admit, this great art - the ability to listen carefully, we certainly no one taught! Try to listen actively to your interlocutor: the husband after work, the daughter - after the kindergarten, the son - after school. Try to delve into all the details, ask again, nod, show active interest in his life. And then demand discipline from the child, because discipline should be based on love, not fear. If you have such a good relationship with your child, that he wants to be like you, he will try to be like him. And if you have a bad emotional contact and the child does not want to be like you, then no violence will help. Discipline works only then and the child listens only because he loves you.

In family life, the main thing is the exchange of positive emotions. And start now, while you are young and easier for you to learn, to constantly maintain a favorable emotional contact between the husband and wife, as this is vital for the emotional health of your children.

And now, when you sit next to your baby in the evening( or 16-year-old, if he wants to communicate with you), take it gently by the hand and completely concentrate only on it. These 5-10 minutes for you and for him, nothing else exists, no phone, no TV, no relatives - you two, you draw to him your golden ray of love: suddenly you want to bask in his rays. .. Let him speak anynonsense, what you want, but you must listen - do not miss the ears, but listen carefully, fully involved in his situation. To understand that if a son quarreled with Masha in the second grade, then this can be for him a much greater grief than you think, because the purest, most sincere feelings are childish.

And when your husband comes home from work, and you, in a beautiful dress( and not in a dressing gown), neatly combed( and not with hair curlers on the head), cover the table with a tablecloth( and not oilcloth) and serve a tasty, though modest,home dinner, that from one smell drooling flowed. In this case, be sure to ask what was at work, let him speak, share his plans and concerns, because close attention to her husband is absolutely necessary. After all, we actually have so little communication, each of us has our own life at work! I want to say that if you do not participate in the life of other family members, then everyone goes their parallel way, and loneliness together, the three of them, etc., destroys the family.

Now, while you are pregnant, you still have time to think and make a list of your life values ​​and priorities for the coming years. Then it will be obvious to you what is more important and what is less.