How to shave from the Bermuda triangles

Intuitively feeling the sociopsychological difficulties stemming from divorce, religious pastors tried to counteract them. Banned the breaking of relations. What is easier: declare adultery with sin, frighten a person with infernal torments in the next world - you look, "debauchery" and divorce will be less. And if you forbid the divorce itself, then there will not be any divorce. So it was in Catholicism until recently. But we, I hope, remember the movie "Divorce is Italian" with Mastroianni, whose hero, to get rid of his hated wife, killed her?"Strengthen" the marriage can be and the transformation of the divorce procedure into the circulation of pain. So it was in Soviet times. Divorce - only through the court, even if there were no common children. Before the court it was necessary to advertise in the local press so that people could come to court and take a look, and you should have experienced shame. This tabooing to some extent kept people from divorce. But the price is not great? And is it good for people in a marriage saved in this way? Including children, for which forbidden to divorce?

In my opinion, another way is possible. It is necessary not to increase the external forces that make divorce more difficult, but to increase the attractiveness of marriage. Reduce centrifugal forces and increase centripetal forces. This is possible on the basis of self-knowledge and the self-discipline that follows from it.

To get out of the Bermuda Triangle a love boat is quite possible. But for this, first, it is necessary to realize all the regularities described above. They will help not to be fascinated( then to be disappointed), but to treat a person, adequately assessing and appreciating its advantages and realizing the inevitable disadvantages. In other words: you can and should be valued according to merit a positive. But it makes sense to know in advance that every person, including your spouse, has features that seem to you faults. Only for the time being he does not show them. But when they come up, let it not be a surprise for you. Well, there are drawbacks, they should be noted for themselves and correlated with the previously demonstrated real merits. The main thing is to know this: