Emotional and psychological attractiveness
As the relationship between people in love develops, the personal qualities of partners become more and more important in supporting these relationships. Now it is these qualities that determine whether such relations will develop further. External attractiveness is at the same time in the background.
Studies conducted in the late XX century convincingly show that, following the appearance of men, they increasingly want to see in their women such qualities as self-confidence( seven out of ten men), the existence of one's own convictions, the willingness to argue and defend them, the desire for novelty. They argue that relations should contain not only support and consent, but also complementarity and control. Men who are interested in long-term relationships seek in the partner such qualities as warmth, devotion, kindness, gentleness, cheerfulness, honesty and the ability to empathize. It also turned out that many men value eroticism more than the ability to manage a household.
A British poll of 24-26 years showed that 30% of them most appreciate in women a sense of humor, 19% - a sense of tact, 18% - sincerity and ease, 10% - intelligence and ingenuity.
Women attach great importance to such qualities of partners as mind, sense of humor, warmth, devotion, honesty, attentiveness. Self-confidence, determination and independence are valued only when combined with the ability to be gentle, gentle, benevolent, with the ability to place others around and respect them. Women also want to see their chosen one open, sympathetic, tolerant and reliable, loving children and animals.
A survey of women conducted by the magazine "Figaro Magazine", showed that the most intolerant qualities in men French women consider rudeness, arrogance, male conceit. In this case:
1. 90% of respondents believe that men should be as attentive to their appearance as women;
2.70% believe that men should use perfume;
3.75% prefer men who have their personal lives in the first place in comparison with work;
4. 40% recognize that they can be subdued by a handsome man, but
is stupid;5.40% believe that the appearance of a man is secondary;6.70% of women are ready to take the initiative in personal relationships on
itself, most get pleasure from it.
There is a representation that people are looking for those who supplement them, is the opposite of their personal qualities. Quite the contrary, people are more likely to marry those whose characterological and personal qualities are similar to their own. The closer someone's attitudes to your own, the more attractive you find this person.
People of one warehouse are in mutual sympathy. Certain complementarities are more likely to be formed only as relations develop.
Attractiveness by similarity and difference. Some people notice that they are usually attracted by people very similar to themselves in terms of emotionality, character, interests and sometimes even by external similarity( 1).Others note that they are more attracted to people who are very different from them and are, as it were, their complement( 2).
Attractiveness based on the similarity of parents( mother, father).
Some psychologists believe that similarity with the parent of the opposite sex is an important factor in choosing a partner. Women sometimes say that they like men, similar to their fathers( 1).Men unconsciously look for women who remind them of mothers( 2).
Table of qualities attractive in men and women. The most important qualities for men and women students of the United States were ranked in the order of their significance as follows:
| Men: | Women: |
| 1. | success 1. |
| 's external appeal 2. | leadership 2. Sensibility |
| 3. Professional capabilities of | 3. Ability to love |
| 4. Economic capabilities of | 4. Sociability of |
| 5. Ability to entertain | 5.Domain |
| 6. Intelligent abilities | 6. Ability to dress |
| 7. Observation | 7. Sensitivity, responsiveness |
| 8. Practical mind | 8. Understanding the art |
| 9. Athleticism | 9. Morality and spirituality |
| 10. Anal | 10. |