To beat or not to beat?

Unfortunately, such a question has not disappeared from everyday life in parental education. Although pedagogical science and practice have long given a definite answer to it: you can not beat a child! Under no circumstances. And corporal punishment for educational purposes is altogether absurd. Because nothing but harm, it does not bring anything.

And yet. .. Many parents, especially fathers, believe that the main thing in their communication with children is strictness, exactingness, backed up by force. Deep delusion! Obedience based on fear, feigned, corporal punishment, even by the parent's hand, is humiliating. These feelings corrode the soul of the child, spoil his character. A person can not grow up to be truthful, honest, open, if from a young age he lives in constant fear of a rod, a belt, a cuff. He early begins to lie, dodge, and cunning. And it becomes a habit for a lifetime.

"For the beaten two unbeaten give" - ​​you can hear in excuse from supporters of "hard" education. But more often it's not so much a conviction as one's own promiscuity. Of course, it is much easier to spank a defenseless baby than to try to understand his oversight, prank, inability. It is much more difficult to find an approach to the soul of a son or daughter, put it to revelation, show one's own patience, endurance in an acute situation. But, really, it's worth coping with yourself, if you take into account as proven by life: children who are brought up with "beatings" can not develop normally spiritually, physically or morally. Cruelty maims the child's soul.

And do not hide behind considerations of discipline. Here on this occasion the authoritative opinion of the famous teacher A. S. Makarenko: "If you beat your child, for him it is in any case a tragedy - either a tragedy of pain and resentment, or a tragedy of habitual indifference and cruel children's patience.

. .. Do you think this is necessary for discipline? Such parents never have discipline. Children are simply afraid of their parents and try to live away from their authority and authority. And often close to the parental despotism manages to live and debauch the childish despotism, no less savage and destructive. Here, a childish whim, this true scourge of the family collective grows. In the conditions of mutual despotism, the last makings of discipline and a healthy educational process perish. Not tyranny, not anger, not a cry, but a calm, serious and businesslike order-that's what the technique of family discipline has to externally express. "