That our life is a game!
Games are not just useful, they are vital for a person in general, but a hundred times for children. Any games - mobile and quiet, intellectual and such, in which, in our, parental view, no mind is not necessary. If this conclusion were the property of all adults, if not only all parents knew about it, but also educators, teachers, of course, it would not be worth talking about this. Unfortunately, they do not know.
So, what mistakes do we, the parents, allow in matters of children's games? First of all, figuratively speaking, we do not want( busy, tired, too lazy, do not attach importance. ..) to squat or get on all fours next to the child. We are done by buying toys. And - angry, or even punished, if a child breaks these toys, does not want to play with them. But we do not understand that it's boring for him to play alone. The game, almost any, requires a partner. For a while, a partner may be a doll or a hare, or a bear. .. But after all the game is necessarily a situation. And the set of situations with an inanimate object is very limited. That's why the child very soon even with a new toy becomes uninteresting.
The ability to disassemble a toy, which in the absence of skills and tools almost always looks like a breakdown of it - it's already more interesting. This is a new game situation. For a child to break is a game. For us - material damage. Well, respectively, our reaction is a child incomprehensible. But after all, curiosity, the desire to learn "what a bear has in his belly" is an integral feature of his childhood. So, first, toys should be purchased so that it does not reflect too much on the family budget, and secondly, someday, by yourself, taking a screwdriver, open the toy and show the "insides".
A few words about the purchase and storage of toys. It seems a serious mistake is to visit the toy store with the child. No matter how many toys are at home and even in kindergarten, there are still more of them in the store. Not only in the child, in the adult eye run. It is very difficult to make a choice. And if, after all, adults can stop at something, then for the child this approach is impossible in principle. And so the conflict in one form or another is inevitable.
In addition to one or two favorite toys, as a rule, are not used constantly, but only in certain situations, the rest quickly enough to bother the child. At the same time, the abundance of them dispels attention, further reduces the interest in them. Therefore( but again - think about this, spend time on it) periodically, and the younger the child, the more often, toys need to be cleaned, and after 2-3 weeks, a month to give the child again.
The serious mistake of adults, when they nevertheless descend before the game with the child, is the inability to withstand the line of permissible indulgence. I will try to explain this with an example. Once, having got myself a dog, I studied with her in the service dog club. The instructor taught us how to raise a dog's courage. If the "stranger"( and this was, of course, also one of us), swinging at the dog, immediately turned his back on him and ran away, the dog began to believe in its strength and tried to catch up. If, while waving, went to her, she was cowardly and hiding behind the master.
Approximately and with the child. If parents agree to play with their son or daughter, they will suppress the child with their intellect( "Well, who is walking like this? You have no eyes, can not you see? It's wrong how many times do you tell. .."),an inferiority complex will develop, a fear of making a decision, an uncertainty in one's own strength, etc. On the other hand, if you always give in, "turn your back and run away," nothing good will happen either. This from the service dog requires reckless courage and even recklessness in protecting the owner, the house, the border. From the person it is required all the same another. And if, as often happens, the parents can not find the golden mean and, without resistance, always give in, the child will grow up with hypertrophied conceit and excessive self-confidence, for which life will necessarily punish him.
One of the most important conditions of the child's games can be considered an extreme ease of reincarnation. Listen to the beginning of most games: "I'll be like a mother, and you're my daughter. .. I'm like a teacher, and you're a student. .. I'm like a doctor, and you're sick. .." And five minutes later, on the contrary: "You seem like a doctor, and I'm sick. .." Unfortunately, adults do not enter so easily and quickly and do not quit the role. It is necessary to avoid another mistake - to be all the time only by oneself. In the game it is permissible, moreover, it is necessary to become a child for a while. And how does the medicine relate to children's games? The answer is unambiguous - positive. Especially to mobile games, in the fresh air. Now, when a serious scourge of health( though not only in childhood) has become inactive, physicians see the salvation from it in games. Of course, sports and physical education are also good, but very few of our children are involved in them. To consider the volume of movements that is given during the child's stay in the kindergarten, and even more so in school, is not sufficient with the most imaginative imagination.
Well, can a child overdo it, "run over" or "jump over"?Healthy - no. For two reasons: the first - the children have a small amount of endurance, they simply can not physically give the body, the heart such a load that would be harmful to health. And the second - in most cases children instinctively play quite economically in the energy plan. Only to her mother watching from the balcony, it seems that her child is constantly worn for hours. In fact, almost all children's games provide for alternating the load with rest. Remember how you played yourself - jogging - stopping, jogging - rest.
Of course, in some diseases, children have to limit their motor activity - but the doctor will tell you about it. In all other cases let them run around, let them get tired - and the appetite will get better, and the sleep will be stronger. And parents need to take care of the prevention of colds. Children get cold( by the way, adults too) not when they are cold, but when it's hot in the cold. There is no paradox here. Even with a significant and long stay in the cold, the child will not get cold, although it will freeze to a shudder. Because the body will turn on a complex heating system( yes, that's the trembling - it's the same muscular work that generates heat), minimizes heat loss.
Quite another matter in the heat or when the child is hot due to excessive wrapping. Numerous "windows" open in the skin - pores, through which excess heat is then removed. And in this situation any part of the body should not be protected by clothing or soak, for example, legs - a cold is ensured. But the game has nothing to do with it. This is a very common but stubbornly defended by the parents mistake - to wrap up your child so that the face is not visible.