How can you forgive an insult? And whether it is necessary to do this?
Scientists argue that those who know how to forget old adversity, forgive enemies and friends for what they have done, and also those who are grateful for fate - lives much longer than others. We are sure that our readers want to live happily ever after, so they simply have to learn how to forgive offenses from a husband, a loved one or even a mother. Therefore, the question: "Do we need to forgive any grievances at all?", We answer clearly and categorically: "Yes, forgiving resentment is necessary! For your sake! ".
How to forgive an insult to a husband or a loved one?
Answering this question, one can not help recalling the words of Anne Landers, who said: "Resentment is an acid! He also destroys the vessel in which to store the ship that transports it! "This means that if you do not forgive the offense, then it will destroy you as a person( from a moral point of view) and your relationship with your husband or loved one. You can not expect anything good from the offense, but you will sever the relationship with the person who made you suffer, but after that the situation will not change. Resentment, will be like poison, corrode you from the inside. Therefore, you do not need to sacrifice yourself, your family and your husband( your beloved).If the act of a man was low enough, and you were disappointed in your beloved, you just need to break ties, forgive and let go. Earlier there was his choice, and this is yours!
If you realize that the act was made specifically, then do not forget that the best revenge for a man is to continue to live a happy, successful and fun life, as if nothing had happened. Show him that you are not so easily broken, and difficulties and such situations only strengthen you.
How to forgive a grudge against a mother?
The best way to forgive a grudge against a mother is to turn evil into good. That is, to believe that all actions, actions and words that were said or done were meant for you for the sake of good and help, it just turned out, as usual, a little differently. Think of your mother, not as an enemy, but as a man trying to convey good to you. By the way, this method can be used in relation to other people to forgive them. Take advantage of the situation - let it be an experience, remember it and do not repeat it again, knowing the consequences.
Another way to learn from the incident is to make a list of those things or people who have appeared or left your life, and this has been positively reflected on you. To do this in the first time will be quite difficult, since the offense will overwhelm you. However, in a consequence, in a day or two, take a look at what happened from a different angle, and try to find even the slightest merit in what happened. Over time, the number of positive moments will increase and you will even begin to thank fate for such a chance, which means that you will not take offense at the mother.
How to forgive an insult to a man?
To forgive a man's offense, it takes a lot of time and his strength on an emotional level. The fact is that after a grudge, a man could dig for a very long time in himself and find in himself the causes of insult. Such introspection "will give a roll in any boat", so the first thing a man needs is to get stuck. First, stop demanding from yourself the impossible! You are primarily a person, which means that you have the right to emotions and mistakes. Take for the rule that everything that happened - went as it should. Secondly, the body got a lot of stress, which, most likely, occurred inside, and not outside( few people saw your suffering), so the body needs a good rest, sleep and adjust the diet. Third, start life from the beginning, as if this were never.
If you do not do all this! On a man, the offense can be heavily imprinted in the form of constant anger or emotional instability.
In addition, think about it, you're a man, not a gangster! How many times have you already told your friends or relatives about how you were unjustly offended?5-10-20 times? !And you have not thought about how unpleasant it is to hear from a man, and besides, such negative memories depress and spoil the mood not only for you, but also for those people who you tell the story about injustice.
How to forgive an insult to my mother-in-law?
If you are offended by your mother-in-law, it will be very difficult to forget this to your daughter-in-law, since their conflicts last for many hundreds of years and no generation has been able to get on well with relatives. However, to forgive the mother-in-law is quite simple, if you remember who helped you to get nail after the insult. Most likely, it was your husband, whose mother is your offender. Think about his care, about how he tried to help you in every possible way, and only for his sake, try not to forgive your mother-in-law, outwardly, not show any signs of resentment. Let this sacrifice you bring, for the sake of the person who helped you in trouble.
Still forget the resentment of my mother-in-law, a comparison helps, in which the girl is held with metal fetters, they also represent the insult to her mother-in-law. If you do not forgive her, you will never be freed from these chains. Your forgiveness will destroy the pain, bad memories and the past, which you do not like.
Another point of view helps to forgive offense. The fact is that if the person did not initially start with you, then all subsequent time of joint conduct will go wrong, and even if your mother-in-law is no longer involved in your offense, you will still be the first to blame her! Therefore, try once again to take a sober look at things, is it really that your mother-in-law is to blame for your offense.
And the last tip, how to forgive your mother-in-law - think about the prospects. Are you sure that you are ready to break all relations with her and you will never need her help? !This is another reason to forgive your mother-in-law, because it's not far off when she stumbles or you need her help. ..
Internet magazine Vse-Sekrety.ru wishes our readers to learn to forgive offenses and live a calm and happy life! Good luck!