Tips on how to believe in yourself and your strengths
Believe in yourself! Tips on how to believe in yourself
Think about life easier. Even without going into psychological nuances, one can, with purely logical thinking, come to the fact that belief in yourself directly affects our choice and our conclusions about a particular problem or problem.
There is a very vivid example of this, called the "School Task".This experiment was conducted by the well-known psychologist Albert Bandura. So, what he did: he gathered in two classes of students, each of which was "excellent", so "dvoechniki"( ie from the point of view of the mental component they were equally strong).In addition, the students were from the same class( only different subgroups).After that, he asked each group to solve one and the same problem, but in the first group he mentioned that the task is very difficult, and in the second, he said that the task is very easy and even the weakest students will not cause problems.
The results of this experiment were as follows: in the group in which it was reported that the task was extremely difficult, most of the students quickly gave up and did not solve the problem. And the group, in which they mentioned the ease of solving the problem, most of the students on the contrary decided this problem. And even the weakest students did not give up, continuing to look for a solution, despite the lack of knowledge, and many of them gave in!
This experiment clearly showed how people react to difficulties. If they already give themselves a signal on the subconscious level that this problem is practically not solved, then they immediately sue before it, because they do not believe in themselves and their strength. But it turns out that any life problem has a simple solution, the main thing is to treat it, in any way, to an archetypal task, but as a simple situation. The simpler you will perceive life, the sooner you will believe in yourself and learn to achieve any heights in this life.
Based on the experience of people equal to you. Sometimes the lack of faith in yourself is due to the fact that we begin to compare ourselves with other people who also did not manage to solve such a problem. As a rule, we say to ourselves something like this: "Well, if it did not work out for him! That I certainly will not work! ".So talk and think, at least - it's silly. Remember that you are a unique person who can not be like the others in either abilities or skills. What the others do not succeed is not the fact that you will not succeed. Never drop your hands ahead of time! And if you decide to compare yourself with another person, then consider it and your experience in a particular field.
Remember your successful experience. Sometimes, to believe in yourself and start to achieve results, it's enough just to remember your successful experience in this area. For example, if you do not believe that you will be able to win the competition in a big tournament, then try to look into your past, in which you will see a lot of victories. Also think: for large tournaments people after all simply so do not get. Naturally, past fortunes do not guarantee success in the future, but the past can instill confidence and hope in you, and this is enough to get a great chance to win. It is on personal experience that we consider our chances, so if you want to inspire faith in yourself - remember your past GOOD LUCK.
To believe in yourself - raise the bar. We begin to respect ourselves and believe ourselves only when we are doing something beyond our capabilities. After all, you will not be proud if you beat a small child in chess who only learned the basics of this game? !But you will be very happy when you lose a strong grandmaster. It is so?!Therefore, , so that self-confidence never disappeared, it is necessary to gradually raise its bar. Belief in yourself or as it is called - "self-efficacy", can grow with the complexity of tasks that you solve. But most importantly, solving more complex problems, you become an even more successful person!
It is more difficult to survive a child or teenage defeat. You can never compare yourself in the present tense, with yourself in childhood. If you do not get to build relationships with girls in adolescence - this does not mean that in adulthood there will be problems. Difficulties can arise only if you assure yourself that you still do not deserve the attention of the beautiful half of humanity, for any reason. We agree that it is very difficult to believe in ourselves as a child, because in many ways we can not soberly relate ourselves and the person who has already taken place, as a result of which children and adolescents are hard at losing, and self-confidence can be lost for several years.
Take into account your abilities when assessing the solution of a vital task. To once again not be disappointed in yourself, do not sometimes put more on yourself than you can actually take. Try to take on those things that are real. For example, it's silly to plan to become a dollar millionaire in a month, if today you do not earn one thousand and you do not have a plan as such. The more often you call on the common sense to decide, the less you will find yourself in situations that are "beyond the teeth".Often self-belief disappears after numerous defeats, and vice versa can manifest itself, after several victories, it follows that in order to encourage oneself and to believe in oneself, sometimes it is enough to get several, albeit small, but victories.
Somebody else's opinion influences belief in oneself. A person is a being who lives in a school( society), he can not without him. Therefore, for each of us, the opinion of society has a certain significance. Sometimes someone else's opinion becomes more important than even their own. As a result of this, every phrase spoken to a person is able to change it and this is used by mean people, rushing offensive words and as a result: it's not just anger at the offender, but frustration in oneself, the faith in its beauty, ingenuity,.P.If you are also addicted to someone else's opinion, then you will never be able to believe in yourself and your strength!
Do you want to believe in yourself - consult authorities. Completely get rid of someone else's influence you will not succeed, and this is not necessary as such, because you need to remain a partially trusting person, but you only need to trust people who are authorities for you in this or that business. However, do not create an idol that understands everything. Each person is able to be an expert in two or three areas, not more. If he gives advice, already going beyond his knowledge, then it is not necessary to listen to them. So, if an authoritative person declares that you are really good in your business, and everyone else( friends, acquaintances and relatives) have the opposite opinion, it is better to still listen to an independent expert.
Learn to correctly prioritize. Not all things should be the best, and even more, not all tasks require just your solution. It is very important to understand what plays a dominant role in your life, what is secondary, and what does not matter at all. We often try to solve a lot of things at the same time, thus, charging ourselves with an unbearable burden, and instead of solved problems we have a lot of failures that oppress us. But the worst thing in these situations is that we manage to sow unnecessary business, and the important ones remain unresolved, as a result we have a bad mood, low self-esteem and lost faith in ourselves.
Communicate more often with successful and positive people. As we mentioned above, each person requires social activity, one of the manifestations of this very activity is communication, the emotional consciousness of a person directly depends on it. If we communicate with evil, envious and generally negative people, then how would we not like, but we will begin to become the same. Therefore, if you do not want this, but rather strive for success and acceptance of faith in yourself, then, first of all, you need to change your environment. Try to spend more time with people successful and attuned to an active life position.
Avoid stress. Stress is a very insidious condition for a person, because on the one hand, this is an emotional state that is typical for every person. However, on the other hand, it has an extremely negative effect, in diseases or depressions. Let's take our example with you. A person with an already low self-esteem does not believe in himself, and then there is a stressful situation that can bring a person to a nervous breakdown after which a number of problems with a person's health appear.
Maintain a healthy lifestyle. A healthy person, as a rule, does not experience problems with self-confidence, as he always has a "fresh head", which allows him to soberly look at things and the world around him. He does not panic from defeat, but perceives them as another life experience, which will later be useful for such situations. After all, it's not only the one who does not do anything wrong.
We wish you to always believe in yourself, your strengths and always achieve your goals!