How to get rid of the feeling of envy of others and the envy of others?

Despite the fact that, envy is one of the most negative aspects of a person, envious - it is quite normal and even typical of any healthy person. One can even say that it is useful to have a little envy and admiration for someone, since with a correct perception of this feeling we are able to develop and reach new heights. Today in this article we will consider the feeling of envy from two sides: the first will be envious of us, with the second - we will admire. So, let's begin.

5 ways to get rid of the feeling of envy

The best remedy for envy is your own achievements! Learn to make plans and follow them! Often we see only the end result of others' works: the acquisition of a car, a trip to the sea, the purchase of fashionable clothes, etc. However, we do not notice what was worth this achievement. No, we understand that everything has turned out thanks to painstaking work, patience, etc. However, in order to achieve such results, you still need to learn how to do it yourself, step by step, to make small, but still shifts forward. Yes, at first, you will not notice the changes, but later the differences will be there.
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Focus on the goal. When you want the same thing as another person - make a plan, as we wrote in the last paragraph and concentrate entirely on the process of achieving. In this case, you will think about the desired, or as something unattainable, but as a task that is supposed to be fulfilled. In this case, the feeling of envy will begin to fade away and be transformed into an example for imitation, which will begin to motivate to actions, rather than evil thoughts.

Revise your desire again. The fact is that people are often jealous of what they themselves really want. Our desires are often deceptive and are caused by various additional factors, such as jealousy, resentment, someone else's opinion, etc. Therefore, it is not uncommon for a person to achieve what he wants, and he realizes that he did not need all this. Accordingly, we want you to think in advance of what you are jealous of. Is it really worth it to be envious? !For example, you are jealous of a person who works in a shop for the production of cakes. However, do not think about the fact that if you get there, then forever cease to love these masterpieces of culinary art and everything that is associated with them.

Evaluate everything that you have! As a rule, our life flies by unnoticed, and we begin to appreciate all that was in life, only with time. Therefore, stop underestimating yourself and praising others. Most likely, you have much more, just do not notice it. After all, it is not always possible to measure everything around in our life with money. Such feelings as love, care and attention - are worth much more. If you are jealous of feelings that you do not have. Then again, there is no need to despair, which means that you are not yet ready for them. Learn to wait and believe in destiny.

Find an alternative. If you soberly assessed your chances and realized that this is never achieved( although this is a wrong conclusion), then find a temporary alternative for yourself, to which you will experience an irresistible passion. For example, if you wanted to have a car of a certain brand, you can buy one instead of it, which will be cheaper, but it can be improved to the desired state. If you wanted to get a position that can not be reached, then start with the one that is the first on the way to the chosen top( because the directors do not immediately become).Perhaps they wanted you to have the same beautiful girl with you, like a friend. That first, learn to seek the disposition of those who are not, such a beauty. After all, it is not always possible to win a heart without experience.

5 methods how to get rid of the envy of others

Envy of the surrounding people is also able to deliver us a lot of discomfort in life. Often it( envy) is expressed in attempts to shame, offend or even humiliate a person for allegedly not a good act or omission. Sometimes jealousy can be expressed in revealing the shortcomings of an object for envy. For example, if you are a girl and you have a lover, then girlfriends because of envy can in every possible way try to find faults in it and, by the way, tell you about them, and maybe even several times. You can offend or humiliate with the help, expressing their personal opinion on the account of his beauty or character, and shame - pointing out your illegibility in partners.

How to get rid of such envy, which comes from others?

Do not pay attention. The simplest way to get rid of the envy of the people around you is simply ignoring conversations and topics that will affect your success. We can not always correct external factors and the people who surround us is a fact, therefore in these cases it is necessary to change our attitude to the situation and certain personalities. If you start talking and try to defend your opinion, nothing good will come of it. But to continue to remain silent, thinking about it - is also far from the best way out of the situation. You must really stop paying attention to envious glances, hints and phrases. Let's just say, learning this "trick" is not as easy as it sounds. Yes, you can learn to keep silent on other people's "attacks", but do not think about them, forget them - it's not easy!

Learn how to hide your successes and achievements. If possible, hide all your successes. It does not matter how they will be expressed - you found a soul mate, got a job or you were given a valuable gift. The less people around you will know, the more tense your nerves will be, since there will be no jealousy and evil thoughts. After all, think for yourself, what to change from what everyone will know about your joyful moment in life? !Do you think they will rejoice for you? !No!!!Rather, they will begin to envy, get angry and say not very pleasant words to your address( first behind your back).In addition to envy, others may have ideas about how you can now exploit( asking for something, for example, for example).So remember: keep your mouth shut!

Learn how to defend your happiness! If you are not the person who misses your ears by insult, insults and hints are not entirely unambiguous, then in this case you need to learn a dispute. Defending your opinion - this also takes time and emotional forces, especially if your opponent is jealous. Learn to speak directly. When you see hints of envy, speak directly - "Do not envy me!".Such a phrase a little puzzling, since you will lead a person to clean water. It is especially good to do this in the company, since he( the opponent), although he will begin to attack verbally, but next time he will not want to touch on this topic, so openly. The method of "breaking eye contact" works well. It is carried out as follows: ending the dispute, say the last phrase that sums up his / her inappropriateness and turn away from him, or rather go to another room, for example for a mug of tea, not listening to his phrases spoken after it. In principle, you can talk a lot about the methods of the dispute, but you better read them separately on our website. However, without knowing the rules of the discussion, it is better not to openly enter into it, otherwise you will immediately lose, which promises a bad mood, even despite the success, to which everyone is jealous. Do not let your joy turn into an object for sadness.

Change the circle of friends. Sometimes the cause of envy is the wrong company, in which the wrong ideals are possible, perhaps people are unkindly disposed, perhaps the company consists of those people who have not achieved much in life, so now they are trying to rise at the expense of others' humiliation, to rise in status. Urgent change this environment! Exclude communication with them, and you will see how everything is good and wonderful in your life. You will not believe, but such people can be even your close relatives. Try not to break, of course, with them, but keep a distance: talk less, talk on abstract topics and try to keep news from your personal and work / student life less.

Change the attitude towards the world. The thesis was a little philosophical, but you can not write it in another way. The essence of it is to learn to perceive all relationships a little differently. Do not be such a receptive person, learn how to present news from your life, not with pathos, but with a joyful note. Learn, sincerely rejoice in others' successes( after all, if you do not know how to rejoice at another person, it's unlikely that he will be happy for you).Be kinder and do not notice how the world around to change!

That's the way you can get rid of envy, either from the people around us( friends, friends or even relatives), and from your own thoughts. As you can see, envy can both destroy a person( morally), and make him improve and achieve the desired. Which of these options you choose, we do not know, but very much hope that you will make the right move that will only improve your life.

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