Pets in the family

Allocation of one of the children as a pet is one of the most terrible sins. Most simply would say to you: "You can not have pets!" It's wonderful, of course, but it is possible that this will not be in your power. Some parents do not really have this problem. They are simply arranged differently and could not choose a pet from their children, even if they deliberately thought about it. But there are those who unknowingly prefer one of the children to others, and if they say that they do not have a pet, they will lie.

If this is the case, you must lie. Under no circumstances should you give to anyone( except, perhaps, only your partner), which of the children you love more).And in order not to give it away, you have to lie all the time and say that you do not have any favorites. I remember how my grandmother once confessed to me that I was a pet among my nephew's nephews. Of course, I was shining, but she should not tell me this. So keep in mind that people can not be relied on, and it will not only be for children, but for everyone around.

One friend of mine once admitted that he can not help himself - he must have a pet among the children, but this is not always the same child. All his children at some point visited him in their pets, but none of them knew about it. This dad also told me that in fact he always loved them all equally. But often one of them simply liked him more.

So what if you have a pet( except how to lie about it)?Well, for starters, you can seriously think about whether you really love one of the children more, or if you just like something more. Maybe it's just something more close to you, but it's not the same thing as loving it more than others. Maybe, in fact, you love all the children the same way, you just did not realize it yourself.

This approach works for some, but not for everyone. If you still feel that someone loves more, you must work on your attitude towards others. Knowingly look for traits worthy of love in them, maybe spend more time with them or find common interests and allocate time to do your favorite things together - look at trains, fish, go shopping, watch horror movies( of course,if the children are old enough for this), walk, cook, ride, play football. ..

By the way, children always try to determine which of them is your favorite. They may even ask you directly, and if not, they will try to make out some hints, sometimes distorting your words and actions into your own or somebody's favor. In general, if each of them accuses you that the pet is someone else, then you are behaving correctly. But if they all agree that one of them is your pet( whether they are right or not), then this is an occasion to reflect on what causes them to think so.