Set clear goals for children

This rule I borrowed from businessmen, but it is very suitable for us and you. A good manager always knows how to set goals and achieve their implementation. This approach is the most correct one. If your boss tells you: "Sell more!" - this is very discouraging. You can not understand whether it pleased or upset him the extra ten percent that you haggled over last month. And you suspect that he himself does not know this, otherwise he would probably say to you: "Sell another ten percent more!"

So, from professional experience we know that clear goals are right;they provide an opportunity to understand what is expected of you, as well as the realization that your superiors do not care about your achievements and failures. In this case, why do we tell the children: "Be careful!", Or "Get out of the rabbit more often!", Or "Do not sit so much at the computer!"?

Do not you think that such questions show that you are not really as concerned as you are trying to portray? That for you personally it would sound more convincing: "Do not sit so much at the computer!" Or "You can spend at the computer two hours a day!"?And what do you think, what will be more clear for your child?

Sometimes we really prefer not to bother ourselves again;but it also happens that we simply do not realize whether the children understand what exactly we mean by addressing them. The requirement "Get out of the rabbit more often!" May seem quite specific to you, but a child may not know what exactly you mean. Does your "often" once a week or once a month? Or do you want him to change rabbits hay twice a week, and clean the sawdust from the cage once every two weeks? If you want the child to have a motivation to fulfill your requirements, you must specify them. In this case, he will understand how much you care about what he does. And most importantly - it will really fulfill what you want from it.

I felt this rule on my own skin, when a few years ago I asked one of my daughters to get out of the room. When I after a while rose to her, I found in the room almost the same mess as before. I began to scold my daughter, but she really took offense and said: "But I'm out! Look! "It turned out that she picked up everything from the floor. .. and on this counted the matter done. Because I was really convinced that I want this. And then I realized that this is my mistake, and it's not even in the unattached room, but that I was not honest with my daughter.