Child Support

If you ask your superiors to give you an extra day off, but you are denied, you, of course, will be upset, but somehow you will outlive it. In the end, you asked for a day off. But now imagine that you are going with the same question to your superiors, and there they are telling you: rest, no problem! In what position does this put you?

Firstly, you feel uncomfortable and uncertain, can you still take advantage of this weekend? But at the same time you understand that the decision of your immediate boss does not have much weight. And if he again refuses you something, you already know where to go. In fact, next time you can just ignore it and go straight to the higher authorities. At the same time, the ignorant boss feels humiliated and betrayed, perhaps angry with his superiors, and knows for sure that he is no longer your authority. The higher authorities discover that the leader of the lower link has lost confidence in him and tries to behave so that any subsequent requests are satisfied.

Are you confused? Nothing surprising. The inconsistency of demands on the part of two parents leads to very different confusions and inconveniences, frustrations and loss of respect. And if the higher authorities in my example supported your immediate leader, everything would be much easier.

You have to understand: if you contradict your partner, it means that you just lick your children, that they love you more( yes, let's admit that in the end the essence is in this).In fact, you only bring confusion to their heads and drop into their souls the seeds of loss of respect for both of you;plus the child's confidence in the strength of the borders is destroyed.

If you are a single parent, do not think that all of the above is not for you. The situation can develop at any time when you share responsibility with someone for your child. For example, with your own parents, if they are resting with you, with a nanny or girlfriend who looks after him on Tuesdays after school.

If you want to instill in a child a sense of security and confidence, you must support each other in everything. Including sharing for two the role of an evil policeman. It's worth it: your children will be more happy, will be better aware of the boundaries and respect( and love) both of you equally. With time.