Treat the child with respect

One of my familiar mother addresses to children only with instructions: "Eat your lunch!" "Get in the car!" "Brush your teeth!" And while complaining that it is impossible to achieve "thanks" or "please" from children. We can see what the problem is, but she does not notice her point-blank.

It's really frighteningly easy. It is assumed that the child, unlike adults, must perform what he is told, by definition. Therefore, to adults you are courteous, and children just specify what to do. The problem is that children look at it differently. They do not pay attention to how you talk to everyone else( after all, children never listen to anything).They just start talking to you just like you are with them.

If your children have at least some sense, they will pay more attention to what you are doing than to what you are saying. So you should not only not scold them for neglecting the rules of good manners, if they themselves sin, but on the contrary, praise them for following your example.

Of course, children deserve respect, even if simply because they are people. But here it is most important to note that you will not wait for respect from them if you do not show it from your side. This is not an undermining of your authority. Children very quickly realize that what is expressed as a request( "Please brush your teeth!" Or "Can you put on a table?"), In fact, can not leave them a choice. You just teach them good manners in the best possible way - by example.

But learning by example needs not only courtesy. You should never break promises given to them, they should not lie to them( Santa Claus does not count) and should not swear at them,

if you do not want them to behave the same way. In doing so, you clearly and clearly let your children understand that they are less important to you than other people and you do not care about them. Let us understand that this is not so, but it is necessary to give this understanding to the children.

OF COURSE, CHILDREN DESERVE THE RESPECT OF ATTITUDE, ATTEMPT TO BE SIMPLE BECAUSE THEY ARE PEOPLE.