Unique talents of children

Talents and inclinations are often inherited. So it is very likely that if one of your children is gifted with musical ear, artistry, athletic qualities, or, for example, good learning ability, then his brothers and sisters in this will be like him. However, imagine, is it easy for a child to learn, for example, playing a bassoon, having an older sister who does the same, but longer? It is not excluded that the junior in this case will be more profitable and more interesting to try their hand at playing the cello or flute. You must create a fertile ground for the development of the special, albeit in the general channel, abilities of each child, so that they all have equal opportunities.

But if talents can( with a high probability) be similar in all your children, with the qualities of character it is quite different. Despite common genes, sisters and brothers often have completely different temperaments, attitudes and other personal characteristics, and here you also have to meet the unique needs of each child, encouraging and recognizing them. As children grow, the uniqueness of each of them will manifest itself more and more, and you should contribute to such manifestations of individuality. No child wants to be a clone of his brother or sister, he wants to be himself and only himself. And you can greatly facilitate his search for his "I", pushing him to this particular path and carefully helping, if necessary, to correct the direction.

This is especially true and important for younger children in the family, who often fight for years, trying at least to overtake and outrun the older ones. However, it is much easier for them to develop not skills, but personal qualities. In other words, in three years it's easier to be the bravest than the most literate in the family. So - not allowing children to compare with each other - you have to convince the three-year-old that he is the bravest or kind, or best of all remembers( one of my children really remembered my shopping list verbally in three years if he was nottoo big - just had a wonderful memory for such things).

CONFIDENCE IN YOURSELF, FORMING IN THE CHILD, IN THE BIG DEGREE IS EXPIRED ON THE CONSCIOUSNESS OF THE REAL USE AND THE PRICE QUALITY WHICH HE CAN MAKE IN THE "TEAM FUND".

Self-confidence and the feeling of one's own place in the family, formed by the child, is largely based on the consciousness of the real benefits and valuable qualities that he can make in the "team fund", so to speak. Consequently, you, as the right parents, should find in the child these valuable qualities, especially those that can really be used for the benefit of the whole family - for example, orientation on the terrain in the hike, culinary talents, the ability to lift all the mood, the ability to solve logical problems, calm debaters, stay calm in a critical situation, understand the instructions for household appliances( I was always particularly grateful for the manifestation of this, last, skill, since he himself could not understand anything inThe recorded there) and other, other. ..