Adolescent Secrets

In adolescence, children begin to be interested in things that you prefer not to know about. Well, of course, in fact you know about them, so you are worried. Probably, it would have been better to really have nothing at all about this idea - at least, you would have slept more accurately.

However, we will talk without bothers. Your daughter allows herself with her boyfriend more than you like. Your son buys porn magazines. Both of them probably already at least once tried to smoke. And almost certainly they already encountered drugs, but since they will not naturally store any evidence and evidence of this, then do not look for it. Well, are you happy? Oh well. But at least under the mattress you can now not look and do not read personal diaries.

You will not be able to find anything that thousands of other parents would not have found before you. Moreover, most likely, you will not find anything that your parents did not find in due time. And when you find - what will you do with it? To swear with children? I hope no. You will only disastrously damage your relationship, and children will not stop doing what they did, only to hide the evidence will be under the floorboards.

Maybe it's harmless to remember what interested you at this age, and what you did not want to share with your parents. It is not ruled out that you are not telling them about something even now. Do you understand what I'm getting at? Your teenage children are absolutely normal teenage children. And if you do not begin to make out of all these absolutely normal teenage things scandal, then, most likely, in case of some real problems and troubles, the children will come and tell you everything themselves. This is extremely important! If you behave as if there is absolutely nothing terrible in the sub-mathematics secrets, the children will feel that they can trust you without fear of an inadequate reaction.

To go crazy with worry does not make sense. When your children reach adolescence, you can only rely on what you have taught them in the last ten or more years.

And, if you do not climb to them under the mattresses and read their diaries, your relationship will only get stronger. They will respect you for maintaining confidentiality( although, of course, you will never be told) and for a realistic and rather advanced view of things that allows them to be normal teenagers.

IN ADOLESCENT AGE, CHILDREN START TO INTEREST IN THINGS,