Children argue in the family

The previous rule did not require much effort from you. You should just sit, relax and do nothing.

If you have already accepted the fact that disputes are an inevitable evil in the family( part of the learning of compromise and coexistence), you also need to understand that there will be no point in them if you do not allow children to solve them on their own. Otherwise, they will not learn anything, except that if you shout louder or hit harder, the adult will come and decide everything for them. And they will find themselves in an unpleasant situation when they start an independent life, and it turns out that the magic adult no longer appears.

IF YOU HAVE ALREADY PROMOTED THAT DISPUTES ARE INEVITABLE EVIL TO THE FAMILY, YOU ALSO SHOULD UNDERSTAND THAT THE

WILL NOT HAVE ANY SENSE IN THEM IF YOU DO NOT PROVIDE THE CHILD TO THEIR OPPORTUNITY.

Alas, many children grow up just like that. Many years ago I went to special courses where a group of managers were asked to build a tower of irregularly shaped bricks.

It was just creepy, how quickly they started yelling and swearing at each other. Although the idea of ​​the idea was just to find out how well we are able to work together. And it did not matter at all whether this tower would end up standing.

So: if you want your children to grow up to be able to perform such a task, let alone communicate normally with people in real life situations, you have to bite the tongue and let the children decide their own disputes. And you will see for yourself how quickly they will be able to sort out everything themselves.

Of course, there are situations where there is not enough patience or time to give children the opportunity to resolve the conflict themselves. In this case, you must be sufficiently creative and intervene so that the children can still find a solution themselves. For example, you can pick up the toy that caused the quarrel, or turn off the TV( or computer), and say: "Get back when you come to some decision."