Positive motivation of children

Well, remember your school years! And try to imagine such a situation: the teacher promises you a gold medal( excellent grade in a quarter, candy, office set. ..), if you write a dictation well. Presented? And now imagine that instead you were warned: write badly - you will not be released at the break( will they leave for additional classes, forbid participation in competitions - or vice versa, they will be sent to them, depending on your love for the sport)?In which of these cases would you rather write the dictation successfully?

Of course, if you are like me, you are unlikely to be seriously successful in the dictation. But anyway, I can say for sure that in the case of the promised award, I would try harder. And if you treat an overwhelming majority, this is just as true for you. According to modern research, "gingerbread" is much more effective as an incentive for a child than a "whip".

This does not mean that you should reward children for every polite word they say or pay them for cleaning their own room. In most cases, they will be quite happy with the fact that you just notice their diligence and praise. So be sure to tell them about your attitude: "How nice to hear your" Thank you ", or" Wow! You cleaned the room, although I did not even remind you! That's a fine fellow! "And so on. In this case, the child will want to do the same again to earn your praise again. It is extremely important for them to know that you pay attention to them, so do not forget about it, otherwise it will not work( and next Sunday you will wake up at six in the morning from the scandal sounds).

When it comes to something more significant that you want to talk with them in advance, it's also important to use a carrot rather than a whip. Promise the child his favorite meal for dinner if he is good at walking in the park;say that you will give him more money for clothes if he keeps order in the room for a month.

However, it can not be said that the whip( in allegorical, of course, sense), absolutely no place in education. True, ideally it should only hang on the wall as a reminder, but never leave this place. But if the child is really badly guilty, sometimes they still have to use it, though, and in this case - only in combination with the carrot. You have the right to tell your adolescent daughter that she will be banned from her home for a week if she is too late to return, but it is reasonable to promise her that you will postpone the "curfew" for an extra 15 minutes if within a month she has never beenwill break.

IM VERY IMPORTANT TO KNOW THAT YOU APPLY TO THEM ATTENTION, SO YOU DO NOT FORGET ABOUT IT.