Children's Crises

Of course, your children will sooner or later cope with the crisis, or, at least, somehow adapt to the situation. They inevitably humble themselves( just like you) with the fact that the parents divorced or that someone has died. If the child has suffered an illness or trauma, he will get used to the fact that he has lost some part of the body or can not eat everything that his friends eat. If you have moved, he will find new friends and will adapt to the new school.

But this does not mean that everything ended finally and without consequences. There are crises that, while passing, leave you at the starting position, but still the majority even slightly change your life. And sometimes it is essential. A child can be reconciled - to the same extent as you yourself - with the death of one of the parents, but still now he has to grow up without a father or without a mother. This distinguishes him from other children and brings with him a number of minuses besides the very first trauma. All school sports competitions, all awards ceremonies and birthday greetings, every Christmas and every summer vacation will now be different for him, because they will miss something, or rather, someone.

Similarly with a divorce. The child can get used to the fact that parents no longer live together, and even, perhaps, feel relief after a difficult period of finding out the relationship, but nevertheless the rest of his childhood will have to exist in conditions of separate residence of parents and the lack of communication that he had before. Family holidays and trips will be different. He will have to worry about not facing his parents when he comes to his school play. And he will need to learn how to communicate with new parents' partners, perhaps even with stepmother or stepfather.

It happens that children are seriously injured as a result of a disease or an accident. Son of my friends in three years left without a foot after a car accident. From the outside, it may seem that he has learned to perceive what happened to him, calmly, and has quite adapted to life after this severe trauma, but do not forget that with this mutilation he will have to live his whole life. It will certainly influence all of its activities: first, its choice, since a number of professions and occupations will be inaccessible to it;and secondly, his attitude towards her - because in order to assert himself and prove to everyone that he is not a helpless invalid, he is very likely to try to achieve in any case results exceeding the average level. Because of his injury, he risks becoming a victim of ridicule, or, on the contrary, excessive sympathy. In short, whatever the impact of what happened on his later life - positive or negative - one thing is clear: it will inevitably be different from the life of people with two legs.

THERE ARE CRISES WHICH GOING TO LEAVE YOU AT THE ORIGINAL POSITION, BUT EVERYTHING THOSE MOST OF IT WILL ALWAYS CHANGE YOUR LIFE A LITTLE.