Family mood
If you have children, then you have a family. You can not continue to remain a free spirit or a sweet couple. You are a family. And in the family, all members interact with each other. This means that everyone's mood affects everyone else. Yes, there are people who, without much difficulty, keep a cheerful state of mind when everyone around is sprinkled with saliva from anger, but most still are influenced by the mood of others.
Like all right parents, you should understand that the responsibility for the general mood in the family lies with you. This does not mean that you have to be blamed every time someone for some reason feels unhappy. I just mean that in those cases when everyone falls into a grim state or starts yelling at each other, you should not expect that someone else will first stop whimpering, screaming, sulking, complaining, resenting or arguing. If you think that there must be someone who is the first to show the rest to the right example and thereby return communication to normal, then it's best to take this role on yourself.
Children do not understand how contagious the mood is. They do not have the faintest idea that you are so jerked solely because they are the ones who got you all day. Of course, you can try to explain something to them, but in any case years will pass before they can actually manage such things themselves. If they have something not going well, they immediately endure their discontent with life on you, quite unfairly causing you to suffer with them for the company."Let them understand what it is like for us!" - cruel children think. Whatever one may say, only an adult can resolve this situation. And, as I said, this person is you.
One of my children( better I will not say who exactly), when I was smaller, constantly "butted" with me. What really pissed me off was that he never yielded to anything, even if I finally lost my temper. Subsequently, my spouse, carefully you
taking the moment, hinted to me that it is possible that the behavior of the child was influenced by the fact that I myself never conceded in disputes. The example I submitted, could not help him master the art of peaceful conflict resolution.
TO YOU, NATURALLY, UNABLE TO LOOK TO SOME FACTS IN EYES, BUT AS KNOWN, FACTS ARE A DIFFICULTY, AND THEY CONFIRM THAT PARENTS THAT HAVE COMMUNICATED WITH CHILDREN IN HIGHER TONES ARE GROWING CHILDREN ALSO ALLOWING ALL DISPUTES EXCLUSIVELY BY CRYING.