Parents need to relax

So, which of your friends seems to you the best parents? Those who have, as it were, the instinctive ability to talk and do something that their children turn out to be happy, confident and harmonious personalities? You probably wonder how they do it? And now think about those who, in your personal opinion, are not too fortunate in this matter. Why?

All the best parents I know have one unifying quality. They do not worry much about their role. And all the worst have to have some kind of fad. Even if they are not too concerned about how well they raise their children( although, perhaps, they should), they still have some obsession that prevents them from being good parents.

I, for example, know a couple, obsessed with cleanliness and accuracy. Their children must have flaunted at the doorstep, otherwise the world would collapse. Even if the shoes are clean. They were joking out of themselves if their children left something out of place or created some kind of mess( even if they then cleaned after themselves).Children at the same time could not relax at all and simply enjoy life for fear that they would dirty their trousers in the grass or turn over the bottle with ketchup.

Another friend of mine is obsessed with competitions. She presses her children to win in all friendly games. And one more simply goes crazy, if one of the children scratches his knee. I think you yourself can remember a lot of similar examples among your own friends.

On the other hand, really good parents expect that their children will be noisy, dirty, nimble, will always swear at each other, rush headlong and get dirty. From this can not escape. But such parents know that they have 18 years to turn these small dirty tricks into decent adults, and everything in this process has its time. There is no point in making them behave like an adult before the time comes.

It's much harder to relax when your first kid learns to walk than when the last of the teenage offspring begins to be interested in the opposite sex. In the case of small children, you should focus on the main thing: that the child was healthy, fed and satisfied, and all the rest, if necessary, can be pushed into the background. It is not so important if his overalls are not properly fastened, or you did not have time to wash it today, or went somewhere for a weekend without taking pajamas for him.

It will be much better for everyone if at the end of the day you fall on the sofa with a glass of wine or gin and tonic * and cheerfully say to each other: "That's because. .. they are still alive, so apparently we are somethingwe do it right! "

REALITY FOR GOOD PARENTS COUNT THAT THEIR CHILDREN WILL BE NOISY, DIRTY, LOUD, IT IS EVERYTHING TO CUT A FRIEND WITH ANOTHER, BEING BROKEN THE HEAD AND PAIN.