Friends of children

Does your child have friends that you do not like? Is that bully in the kindergarten, who always pulls the other children by the hair when no one sees? A girl from a class that seems to be your daughter's best friend, and the next day refuses to talk to her? A fifteen-year-old guy who constantly skips school( and probably already started smoking)?

Yes, at school age this is especially true: your child will necessarily have friends whom, in your opinion, he should not have. They only upset your child, "influence him badly," and are involved in all sorts of hooligan undertakings. My mother could not tolerate those of my comrades who did not say "right"( which was not too easy in that school in South London, where she gave me away).Well, at least she never found out about the one that taught me how to make explosions at home.

So what do you do with all this? If you read the title of this rule, I think you already understood what I'm going to say. That's right - you have to live with it. The child must learn to choose his friends on his own, even if his choice is not to your liking. He must decide when he is tired of tolerating the inconstancy of Christie. And to understand, is it so good to run with Jake from French.

Ultimately, his decisions should be in accordance with the values ​​that you aspire to instill in him. Yes, it takes time - the child must independently experiment with "bad" friends, in order to finally choose "good" ones. So do not tear your hair when your six-year-old hooligan runs around the street with a gang of the same young oboromotov. In the end, your correct upbringing will bear fruit.

Meanwhile, the child will learn a lot from friends - both bad and good. A child who regularly skipped French and did not pass the exam will learn a lot more in life than someone who regularly attended classes and quietly passed the exam *.Bad friends are also able to teach a lot, especially if you will still ensure that your child is not too addicted.

In any case, how do you know that his friends are bad? Perhaps your child has a certain "dichina" in the soul, which you do not understand and do not support, but which also requires your share of attention. And it is possible that that smoking guy is at the same time the most loyal friend. That girl, who seems to be mocking your daughter, can then defend her in front of the whole class. Or make her laugh when she has a bad day. Of course, you should not overlook it if your child starts smoking or painting neighboring cars, but his friends who do this can at the same time appear to be really very good friends.

WHERE DO YOU KNOW HIS FRIENDS ARE BAD?

Personally, I always let the children deal with their friends on their own, although, I confess, I really loved some of them more. But I always understood that even those whom I considered to be the worst taught my children some worthwhile things. I had problems only with some parents.