"There will be faithfulness there will be no jealousy.

The phrase attracted the phonetic play of the words "fidelity", was conspicuous, remembered and at tea served as an occasion for conversation with the newcomers.

Well, now - in fact. After all, in fact, everything is correct. What kind of love without trust. .. That is, one of the moral principles in a married couple was proclaimed - the transparency of extra-spiritual human contacts. Maybe my husband to talk

ry even with women and maybe his wife can talk on the phone even with men, but that just so there would be no suspicion.

Of course, you can not discount the jealousy of the pathological. Chronic alcoholics have a special psychosis with a delirium of jealousy, as they used to call delirium of adultery. There may be such nonsense in patients with schizophrenia, and other mentally ill. It seems to the patient that the wife is wrong, that she only wants to change her faithful husband. And he sprinkles powder on the floor to see the rival's tracks. It stretches thin threads that, when the rival crosses the border of his apartment, will break - and cheers - the treason of

. But the pathology is for that and pathology, to be an exception to the rule.

And here the question is that jealousy arises in the norm, provided that there are weighty reasons. And now, even without psychosis, but only on one emotional heat are the passions played out. And then - as M. Glinka sings to the words of N. Kukolnik: "

. .." The boiling nature is glowing, And secretly and spitefully,

of the weapon is looking for a hand.

But there can be no reason. If there is faithfulness.

There are many pluses in fidelity. The result of fidelity is the certainty that we are always together. In sickness and death - together. In joy - too. You can invest in each other. You can invest your work. Of course, if money is taken from the bedside table, then they can be littered and given away even if there is no loyalty to a sexual partner. Prostitutes are given. .. Well, if the money is serious and goes to hard work for many years, then to trust their spouse, you need to be sure of it. And it's not just about money, it's about it. You built a joint house, and there you were "discharged" in your absence( Dada, I'm talking about the same residence permit - after all, good people, according to Bulgakov, spoil the housing issue).

Fidelity - it's generally rear, respect and self-esteem.

Wedding here is why? Well, a holiday, well, for the sake of a photo and video. But to a large extent for people it is a festive symbol of responsibility. As if before God. Not that the registry office But in the registrars now ritual - also almost a wedding. Anyway, any ritual is a symbol, a symbol of the

ness answer. They once swore allegiance to the tsar and the fatherland. Here is my wife. Fidelity means: unchanging.

With faithfulness, a married couple can practice even some "forms of group sex." This increases sensuality, but since everything is together there is no mistrust.

But why there is treason? Socrates with my lips asks this difficult question. And the chorus of the separate voices answers:

- I want something else, bother even tasty dishes, if monotony. ..

- Self-esteem has staggered, the question arises, and who else I need, except my wife, and now it turns out, I need. ..

In treason - search for a replacement for a new, moreacceptable option.

By the way, according to some sociological interrogations, the wives are changing more often. .. Less busy, aging faster, dreaming of revenge. ..

In all these explanations, the non-optimal marital relations are looked at as the cause.

But only does real sex mean treason? Yesno, treason is just flirting in front of the spouse and in front of the amazed public, while Christ in the Sermon on the Mount said: "Verily I say unto you that already in thoughts you can sin."

It's all right, if the thoughts are pure, then even more so in actions there will be no betrayal. The person will be more calm if he knows about where the spouse is now, if he can come there, "come on", and therefore, to some extent, guaranteed from treason. If I say it myself( and this is verifiable), where I am at such a time, I thereby demonstrate my own nonchannelness. We must constantly declare our whereabouts, give phones and addresses for which I am available. Now everywhere cellular, but if I'm in some room, then there is a city phone.

To declare it is necessary not only incomes and expenses, but also the budget of time. Someone will say: Well, as without trust, such petty insulting checks. And we will say: well, how about without open maps and transparency. Yes, there must be transparency. And if there is active publicity, transparency, if not the wife will be asking where the husband was, and the husband will inform in advance about his whereabouts and time, then nothing offensive, and everything is psychologically comfortable. But everything, of course, must be delicate. And everything should be symmetric

but: not only his affairs should be transparent and actively open, but also her deeds - in relation to her husband. Not only should he "report", but she must also "report" to him, and not snort: "What am I supposed to tell him all about?"