Who initiated the divorce?

So far, we have considered the causes of the destabilization and disintegration of a married couple, so to speak, symmetrically with each other. The illusion of mutual evaluation, the illusion of comparative evaluation and the illusion of self-esteem - both the husband in relation to the wife, and the wife in relation to her husband. But then the initiative of husbands in divorce and the initiative of wives should be the same. What, nevertheless, do dry figures tell us?

68% OF DIVORSIES INITIATED BY WIFE, AND 32% OF MEN

That is, women are more than 2 times more inclined to divorce than men. What is contrary to our usual ideas. Myto believed that the woman is the keeper of the hearth, and here is the paradox of

According to another researcher, Lyubov Chuiko, the initiative of men in divorces begins to predominate only after their 50-year-old age.

The third material( according to the registrar's offices): in 40% of divorces the length of marriage is not more than three years. We will reconsider on the basis of these "statisticians".Three years - this is one seventh of the marriage experience, sufficient for the performance of the parental role - raised children up to the age of 20, well, all right, they parted."Well, okay," as you understand, it's me,

for cooling passions. But let us take into account the above mentioned figure: in this one seventh part of the normal matrimonial time, more than one-third of all divorces occur. Once again: in one seventh - more than one third. .. And in general, the initiative of women - in two thirds of divorces. All this means a very significant thing. The initiative in divorces is shown by young wives( read: without sufficient life experience).Young, I will say by the way, silly. And men, it turns out, are resisting divorce.

The revealed regularity has, of course, psychological reasons. As soon as I asked a question about the reasons in the classrooms, the Chorus of women's voices instantly found the answer:

- Women are filed for divorce, but the men are guilty. ..

Well, it happens that men are to blame. But the reasons are still much more complicated.

Let's get ready for a difficult conversation in terms of understanding. And carefully, step by step, unravel the reasons that men are less likely to apply for divorce, and especially at a young age.

But why are women more pratic in this regard?

First I will inform you that when I asked the audience about the probability of a new marriage for women and men, I did not get the right answer. But the data of Professor Volkov in Moscow in the seventies - eighties are as follows: