Psychotypes of parents
How children feel in the family, depends not only on the relationship of parents with each other. But also from the psychotype of the parent. We talked a lot about the psychotypical features of the spouse in relation to another spouse, and generally in relation to other] family members.
Paranoiac fathers do little for children, mostly children are brought up in imitation. The father sits above the texts of
without unbending, or he is all in orgrabot, and the son joins it. In between - the discussion of cases, and the son is involved in it. The father can give instructions to his son. Take the note. Overtake text by e-mail. But in order to specifically check diaries, go to parents' meetings and solve arithmetical examples with the child - this is less common.
The paranoiac does not restrict the freedom of movement of the child and adolescent, does not take care of it beyond measure, and the children of the paranoiac are more independent. He balances the epileptoid or hysteroid mother in a zeal to the restrictions on the freedom of sexual life of a son and even a daughter. And before that: let the child himself learn from his own mistakes, for one broken two unbeaten give. In children's conflicts, he teaches his surrender, does not give a descent, stand. Teaches you how to work with your elbows, push others, push, win, beat. Maybe he trains in martial arts with the goal of self-defense, for self-seizure of fixed assets, for future class and national wars.
Children of epileptoid parents are not thrown in the hospital or abandoned in the orphanage. A typical picture: a carriage with a child and with her epileptoid father, ready for anything, if, God forbid, some drunk would want to stick his nose into the stroller. In epileptoid children never remain without supervision. The nose is always wiped off. They are fed. They're dressed up. Not razrrchencheny, but all is soundly and on business. But, of course, and a special severity. Epileptoid parents carefully look at the diary. They blame for bad grades. Restrict freedom. In childhood - the freedom to manipulate objects, motor activity. Do not touch - it will hurt, do not run - fall, "do not climb - kill".In adolescence, parentsepileptoids reduce the freedom of social contact of their children. They forbid to be friends with some children, they impose others. Force to learn on your own. No music, go to the financial college. Or: let him go in the footsteps of his parents, to the music school - where else. But they also help in their studies, regularly attend parental meetings. Often they are members of the parent committee in the school. They protect their children in public, they scold the houses;sometimes, however, inclined to scold and in the presence of strangers.
Hypertymes are almost never used by children. Children hang out with chickens in the yard. Diaries of hypertension do not check. Parents do not attend parental meetings, but they can look and induce there.
If a teacher complains of a child, hypertension will give a belt;The freedom of movement and relationships, including sexual ones, is not limited. The child learns life on their own mistakes. In conflicts, in their opinion, it is necessary to give change. In hypertension, not only the wife is a friend of a drink, but also children, especially sons. He solicits and minors. Why, let them drink. Once we live. Children of hypertension are partners in dominoes or steal together.
Isteroid children are engaged in a lot. A hysteroid parent can be even more caring than an epileptoid parent. And more to regulate the behavior of your child. But he develops it "on the surface": for example, to cultivate etiquette, so that with the bows went, so that the dress was not like everyone else's. Usually a parent, with the help of a child and, alas, at the expense of the child, tries to solve his problems. So the hysteroid in this matter is the champion. For a hysteroid, the child is most often desired. But not because, she says, she gives life and education to a new being, carrying out the continuation of the human race. But because motherhood in Russian society is prestigious, and look at me, I am a mother, and not so simple. In this regard - and the attitude towards the child as a means of self-affirmation. So, he should ride me in the best carriage: not from Turkey or from Poland, but from Italy or from France. The stroller must be a transformer. He will become a figure skater, will go to music school, study at a private gymnasium. ..