The cause and effect of whining children

There are three main styles of communication with others, including children.

The first one is called "autocratic" and consists in the fact that the interacting parties are divided into "boss" and "subordinate".Such an approach in education includes corporal punishment, increased tone of voice, the formation of feelings of guilt in children, and full control over them. In the family, order reigns, but children are deprived of any freedom.

So brought up the children in the good old days. Children knew their place, did not dare to contradict adults and did what they were told. But this educational approach is increasingly being questioned. Modern children know how to stand up for themselves, they mock ridicule, they can strike or rude in response. In other words, the autocratic style of communication no longer fits.

Another extreme is the parents, who in all things indulge their children and believe that mom and dad are the best friends of the child. The most important thing for these parents is to please the baby, so the family is full of freedom and, as a result, a mess. The child is allowed everything, as parents believe that the prohibitions prevent him from harmoniously developing.

In fact, children need discipline, without it, education and training are impossible. If the parents did not explain to the child, "what is good and what is bad", he will try to independently establish the limits of what is permissible. This behavior leads to very different consequences, some of which may even pose a threat to health and life.

The proposed model of education can be called "democratic" - this is the golden mean between autocracy and permissiveness. It is based on freedom within reasonable limits, parents do not act as "bosses" or "best friends", but as teachers and mentors who are faced with a very important task - to teach the child to behave well and empathize with others.

This educational approach is based on mutual respect and mutual understanding, which helps to win the child's trust. Any reaction to disobedience must be well thought out and consistent.

The ability to perceive the cause-and-effect relationship between events is inherent in man by nature. If you touch the hot one, you will burn yourself. And if older and more experienced family members have also warned about the danger, then the effectiveness of the lesson is significantly increased.

Thus, the cause-effect relationship is a simple and accessible educational method. If, for example, a child touches a hot oven, parents' explanations may not be needed - the training went naturally. But in the case of disobedience, adult intervention is required. They should explain to the child how to behave in this or that situation, and also to be calm and consistent in their actions.