Your self-respect

Your self-esteem is in direct proportion to your determination, the ability to attract a sexual partner and promote the formation of a love relationship. If your self-esteem is not at an altitude, then this affects not only your relationship to a partner, but also his attitude towards you. Your shyness and self-doubt may be interpreted as coldness, lack of interest or pessimism. As a result, you may find yourself in a position of rejection. You will simply be underestimated.

To begin, perform the following tasks, which will help you to test the action of your self-confidence and attractiveness.

Your strengths:

1. Evaluate your strengths. First, make a list of those positive qualities that relate to your appearance. All of us, undoubtedly, possess those. So find them in yourself and add them to the list. Try to be more specific. For example, you can write: strong nails, clean shiny hair, slender legs, clear eyes, good complexion, etc.

2. And now list your positive qualities that relate to your behavior and characterize you as a person. For example: you have the patience to work with children;you can look at things from the opposite point of view;you are kind and fair to your friends;you can bring the work to the end and at the same time provide everything. There should be at least five items on your list. Strive to ensure that such items were as much as possible.

3. Now list all the skills that you have mastered and that are not included in the previous list. For example: you can adjust the motorcycle, you know how to handle a computer, you play tennis skillfully, you cook well, you like to make something.

4. Now look again at what you brought in points 1 to 3. We all tend to underestimate ourselves a little. Because of this, we sometimes do not pay attention to our positive qualities, which we take for granted.

Meanwhile, perhaps they are what attract other people in us. Therefore, in light of the above, put in this paragraph what you missed earlier( physical qualities, character properties, skills and abilities).

5. Now carefully review all three lists. Which of the qualities listed in them you used to take for granted? Do you know how to use them properly? Review each item and decide how you can develop further these qualities, properties or skills.

Your weaknesses:

1. Do the same as in the previous task( points 1-3), only in this case list your weaknesses. For example, speaking of bad features related to appearance, you can mention that your hair is often dirty, that you do not care about your figure at all, that it's high time for you to think about tightening your abdominal muscles, your clothes are not always neat and t. Speaking about your behavior, you can include there such items as quick temper, impatience, inability to sympathize with someone else's grief. When you get to your skills and abilities, then make a special emphasis on those skills that you do not own, but which your friends or acquaintances have. For example, write that you can not draw portraits or play a musical instrument, but you really would like to learn.

2. Now look what you got and what weaknesses you found in your home. How easy was it for you to compile such a list? Was it easier to write about your merits? Which of the two lists - positive or negative - is longer? If the list of your negative qualities is longer, then you should think about why it happens.

3. Review each item that you entered in the list of weaknesses. What can you do to change this situation? For example, you are embarrassed that you are shorter than you would like to be. Think, maybe you can wear clothes that will give the impression that you are taller. Try to create the illusion that you are higher. If you feel that any of the items can not be changed, then simply delete it. Now look at what's left on the list, and decide how to do so to reduce the impact of these qualities on your self-confidence. In practice, you will see a work plan before you, after which you will achieve good results. Especially since you only need perseverance and a little time for this.