The first sexual experiences
It often happens that a boy can be born with a mini erection, and most boys have erections in infancy. These are reflex reactions, which are not necessarily considered a manifestation of sexual behavior or interest. In infancy, most boys and girls enjoy and feel comfortable if they rub themselves between a soft toy or other object. Later they begin to masturbate with their fingers. According to the researchers, at the age of two, some children are already able to experience orgasm. It is impossible to say what a two-year-old child really can experience. Therefore, we can not say that the feelings experienced by a two-year-old child are identical to those experienced by adults or teenagers.
In our society it is reliably known that by the age of five many children are well aware of the physical differences between boys and girls. Between five and six years old, and also at the age of nine or ten, many children have already played the game of "doctor and nurse" or "you show me, and I'll show you."Children play such games, driven by natural curiosity and the desire to view the body of another person. Quite often, these games occur between children of the same sex. At the same time, we can not say that at this age, children show any sexual preference. It is believed that this happens later, when they begin to grow up.
Such a game, regardless of whether it occurs between children of the same sex or different sexes, is usually not encouraged by adults for good reasons. But here it is necessary to show delicacy and considerable tact. On the one hand, we want the children to understand what can be done with others and what can not be done. On the other hand, one should not teach children to be shy of their body or that of another person. In such cases, we must find an opportunity to explain to them that not everything should be done openly, without suppressing their natural curiosity. It would be enough! In the behavior of children, which we mentioned above, there is nothing unusual. In the end, we all played these games. But the warning signal should sound at the moment when the older child involves kids in such games. The same signal should be heard by parents or adults, and if such games are conducted regularly, if one of the children is their constant instigator or if the child shows an unhealthy interest in everything related to sex.
Children often ask adults about sex. This happens almost immediately after they start talking. As a rule, the first question that indicates such interest is the question of where the children come from. In order to learn to answer tricky children's questions, we must try to look at the world around the eyes of the child. Try to understand why they asked you exactly this question and what really bothers them, and find an explanation that they could understand with their child's mind.
In this case, do not start a lengthy explanation or try to confuse them. Tell them exactly as much as necessary to satisfy their curiosity. Every time a child receives an answer to his question, he expands his knowledge about this or that subject. Keep on hand several books that are written specifically for children, with explanations of the subtleties of the structure of the human body, affecting and some aspects of sex. With the help of ready-made text, pictures or diagrams, it will be easier for you to explain to the child the essence of the things about which he asks. Children can also look into the book themselves.
Sexual maturity in men and women
The manifestation of sexuality intensifies when a child enters puberty.