Emotional climate in the family
At the very beginning of family life it is very important to understand: there is no separate physical and mental health. The soul, spirit, body and mind are one unbreakable( psychosomatic) whole. In the human body, everything is closely interrelated, and there is no grosser error than caring only about the physical side of the health of the pregnant woman and her future children, not paying attention to emotional relationships in the family, to spiritual and moral values that unite people.
For many years I started my talks with young parents - members of the Moscow club "Healthy Family" - with problems related to physical health in the family. I naively believed that the most important thing is the physical
health, and the spine and the length of the pregnant wife. Previously, it seemed to me that the bottom of everything was to teach future mothers and fathers( and even better, and grandparents) to take out the temperature without drugs in ARI, do compresses when coughing, etc. But life goes on and it becomes more difficult, and we begin to comprehend ittrivial truth: the most important thing is the psychology of relationships: in the family, at work, in the country, in the world.
Our trouble is that no one has ever taught us how to build this relationship, how unconditionally to love each other - and even more so how emotionally to express their love for children and loved ones. Nobody taught us how to communicate with each other, no one has ever explained how to be friends with our children, spouses, relatives of the wife and husband, and this gap with the culture of previous generations has a catastrophic effect on our life.
Therefore, before discussing the problems of maintaining and strengthening the physical health of a pregnant woman, I would like to talk about some ways to improve the emotional climate in the family. At first glance they seem to you very simple, amazingly simple. Some may call them "primitive" with a grin. But you try to overcome your skepticism and start applying them every day. To your amazement, you will see how much easier it will be to live.
Try it! You will feel how much easier it will be to communicate with children and loved ones, notice how much calmer the situation in the house will become. You will cease to be too nervous about the troubles with which our life is full, because you will know that at least something depends on you: you decide how you behave and how to treat people. After all, if we realize that we can manage our own life and relations in the family ourselves, if we are convinced how much much in our power and in our power, it will allow us to straighten out and start squeezing out of ourselves a "slave by drop" - as A.PChekhov.
I really advise you, after reading this chapter, immediately begin the first rehearsal at home. Train on her husband( and mother-in-law!), Then - at work, with colleagues, in a store, a clinic, and you will see that your life will change, you will be able to breathe easier and communicate more with people.
Porphyry Ivanov, a wonderful Russian healer, advised you to greet everyone, wherever you are. By the way, this primordially Russian, warm and human "village" habit completely changes the atmosphere of communication. Try wherever you go, say hello first and smile. In a situation like ours, when many are too aggressive, it is possible to remove this aggression only by the fact that one tries to radiate goodwill and friendliness. Of course, this is very difficult, it is terribly difficult, but nevertheless it is the only way that the vicious circle can be broken. And we must start with the Family.