Language of the body

Most of our communication with another person is through the body language. And when we first meet a person, words can not convey what we really feel. But our poses, gestures and facial expression can speak for us. The other person, willingly or unwillingly, responds to your movements. Thus begins the dance of incipient reciprocity.

We are familiar with body language from the moment of our birth. Other people also know about it and can answer it just as eloquently. Nevertheless, shyness and lack of self-confidence force us to hide our true feelings under the guise of indifference. We try to hide our interest somewhere in the most secret corner of the soul. You can learn to overcome your embarrassment, strengthening your self-confidence. This will help to cope with the difficulties.

There is simply not enough space in this book to explore such a complex subject as body language. But you can test your knowledge in this language if you look at the pictures on the next page sequentially. Each of the pictures shows a scene of the first acquaintance. Below are ways of expressing one's interest in another person. Familiarize yourself with them and

decide which of these ways people in pictures express their interest to each other:

• facial expression;

• View;

• head rotation;

• Turning the body;

• physical proximity - the distance between two people;

• position of hands or feet;

• Pose - tilt towards the neighbor or, conversely, in the opposite direction from him;

• mirror image - an unconscious copying of the posture or gestures of another person;

• emphasized polite behavior.

Notice how these methods change as the pair begins to approach.

In the body language, just like in any other language, everything depends on the context. Gestures and poses in the culture of different peoples have different meanings. Urban residents usually stay closer to each other than those who live in the province, and crossed arms do not necessarily mean that you are trying to keep away. Maybe it's just a cold man. Therefore, try not to make hasty conclusions. Try to check your guesswork. After all, if you attracted someone's attention, this does not mean that a person has sexual interest in you. And if he experiences it, then maybe he has 1001 reasons to hide his feelings.

In fact, romantic relationships are usually built very slowly. In this case, each of us must give something and receive something in return, for example, small signs of approval. Do not rush to extremes. Try to understand the signals that the other person gives you in body language. Each such signal can mean a word, sentence or an entire paragraph. In any other situation, these signals would not mean anything.

The development of romantic relationships resembles a constant game of two people, in which any subtleties of gestures and facial expressions serve as a continuation of what is left unsaid. In this game, you must have enough courage and skill to feel the mood of another person and correctly understand the language of gestures and half-hints so that the words serve only to confirm that you have understood everything correctly.

"Would it be nice to stay here for the night? Where is better, in the bedroom or on the couch? "

The answer may be:" I do not know yet "or" I like the sofa ".But do not hurry! Too hasty agreement or response can create a wrong impression of your partner about you. Think before you decide. And let the combination of his words, gestures, facial expressions tell you the correct answer.