What if the husband is a tyrant - what actions to take against the tyrant's husband?

In the candy-bouquet period of courtship, a young man always strives to look the best way in the eyes of his beloved. But the real nature of the girl finds out only after the wedding, in the process of living together. Unfortunately, there are cases when a beloved and gentle spouse magically transforms into a despotic tyrant. Most women try to hide this fact from others, but at the same time they experience strong mental suffering. Every woman in such a difficult life situation should clearly understand what to do if her husband is a tyrant, how to behave properly with him and where to seek salvation.

Types of tyrants

In fact, to determine whether your husband is a tyrant is not so easy.

And often it is not clear where in such a nice person suddenly despotism and tyranny awakens. A distinctive feature of the despotic character is the desire to subordinate all close people by any available means. There are three main types of tyrants, but they are very rare in such an explicit form, as described below.

The main aspiration is total control of .Such a man constantly wants to know who communicates with and is friendly with whom;who, where and with whom he went;than a person does. Favorite question of a tyrant husband, addressed to his wife: "Where have you been?" He wants to control literally every step she makes. And God forbid his wife to stay at work for about ten minutes - tormenting questions and suspicions. Absolutely everything that happens must be managed by the tyrant husband, otherwise he will feel insecure.

The obsessive desire to humiliate a woman .Male tyrants of this type regularly succumb to their woman quiet tortures. Favorite statements, thrown at her address is: "Where are you without me? What can you do without me? And uneducated klusha! "And the husband can pronounce these offensive phrases with tender intonation, gently stroking his wife on the back. Such humiliating statements help the tyrant maximize his self-esteem. But in fact, his goal is to convince his wife that she is stupid and not a person, and without him, she's just an empty place.

Physical assault, assault by .This obscene behavior of a man is the most extreme manifestation of tyranny, but, unfortunately, it is not uncommon. The lack of a decent father's education, sound endurance and self-control, as well as his explosive nature often cause despotic assault. Alcohol and drugs multiply such unworthy male behavior. While the tyrant constantly dismisses his hands towards all household members, in his true essence he is a coward who can not rebuff a street hooligan.

What to do for a woman

Before a woman trapped in a tyrant, sooner or later there will be a fateful choice: either she voluntarily becomes a slave, or try to keep herself as a person. If a woman decides to remain true to herself, she will need to take certain steps:

• Report her husband's antics to all relatives, friends, and friends. And the husband must know about this necessarily, so that it reaches him that no violence or insult will not go unpunished.
• Tell your tyrant husband that there is a way to hold him accountable for physical and moral torture. But in this case a woman needs to be ready to attract strangers to witness the received insults and traces of beatings.

• You can also get support if you call a nearby crisis center, talk about your husband's indecent behavior and ask for help.
• Start on your own making a living. A materially independent woman will not tolerate humiliation. Finding a long-forgotten sense of self-worth is a priority for a woman who wants a better life. Most likely, she will have to spend some time separately from her husband, although the presence of children in the family complicates the situation. But we need to understand that the most reliable way to save yourself and children from constant attacks of a tyrant is to reduce all contacts to zero to him.

Increase self-esteem

To stop giving yourself offense, she needs to learn how to love herself, but not in the sense of admiring the mirror. A truly loving woman thinks herself worthy of all the best, but for this she will have to constantly pursue her own development, be it study, work or hobby. Only by increasing self-esteem and gaining self-esteem, a woman will finally be able to eliminate the material and moral dependence on her husband-tyrant.