How to survive a divorce if you love - divorce with her husband
All people are going through a divorce in their own way. The easiest way is for those who quickly find a new love and build a relationship with another person. In this case, you can not long to be sad and upset, because you almost immediately get something new in return for the previous relationship.
If it's not about you, and you still do not have a new love, do not get discouraged. Cope with depression after a divorce is possible. So how do you survive a divorce from your husband if you still love him or have children?
Time to be sad
Even before starting to turn from a disappointed and abandoned woman into a divorced beauty full of life and optimism, give yourself a short period in order to cry out plenty and regret yourself. It's necessary. Just limit the time of this period. Enough only two or three days.
In these two or three days you can do whatever you want: cry, cry, beat dishes, tons of chocolate and so on. But remember: only these established days and not an hour more. Then let your new and happy life begin. The life of a divorced, but pleased woman.
Only such a mood will lead to the fact that you throw out all those emotions that have accumulated in you during the divorce process. The storm will abate and give way to common sense and sober calculation.
New goals for
When you finish mourning a divorce from a once-beloved husband, think about what earlier you had dreams? What did you want to do, but could not for some reason? Can lose weight? Learn modern dances? Buy yourself a pet? Now it's time to start implementing everything that you so wanted to do. Did the situation with divorce severely undermine you? Then do your old life with new achievements!
Get rid of the past
Until then, until you get rid of all unnecessary and old, a beautiful new one does not appear either in your home or in your heart. So, after you have calmed down because of the divorce, do a general cleaning in your apartment. Not just superficial, but one that will throw away all old and unnecessary things. Even if they look absolutely decent, if you look at something in your chest, you have a feeling of self-pity for yourself and a pain for lost relationships, throw everything away without the slightest regret.
Another great option - to give everything to charity. And take away family photos. After all, this family is no more, which means that there is no need to put pictures in a prominent place. Hide everything on the mezzanine and try to look at it less often.
Bringing ourselves in order
To the proven ways to return to the normal course of life, you can include a hairdresser, beautician and a gym. Take care of yourself and put your appearance in order. You can see the effect of such changes after a photo session with a professional photographer.
Changing the image and hairstyle has always benefited every woman. And beautiful pictures, on which you really like yourself, will cheer up, if suddenly you are again attacked by depression. This photo of the renewed itself should be placed at the most prominent place in your home and at work. Admire yourself and understand that such a beauty will be all right, and you can find yourself a beautiful new man who will never do what your ex-husband did.
Usually months after five to six after the divorce process has ended, your anger and anger will be a little pokalyagutsya, a sense of loneliness and uselessness dull. Spend this time with benefit: reflect, what led to the divorce? Can any of your wrong actions? What was specifically your fault?
Raising self-esteem
Remember that if you were not able to appreciate one man, the problem is not at all in you, and do not put a cross on yourself. How about self-hypnosis? Do you remember how in the famous film the woman constantly inspired herself that she was the most charming and attractive?
Here you need to do exactly the same thing. Believe in the fact that as you yourself feel, this will be seen by others. But you only need to understand that no matter how beautiful and well-groomed you are, a man will not approach you if he sees an extinct and unhappy look.
When you stop thinking about how to survive the divorce, and start to think about how to understand yourself, you can think that the divorce has safely survived, and you embarked on the path to a new and happy life.
Return faith in yourself
Do not think that divorce is the end of your life. This is just the beginning of something new and beautiful. For example, a divorce from a husband can be a new turn in a dizzying career. Imagine, before you completely did not give in to your work because of the fact that there was a husband who constantly demanded your attention. But now it's not there, so it's time to take up your professional growth. After all, it leads not only to a wonderful sense of self, but also to material prosperity.