The first days in the kindergarten.
A sociable four-year-old is immersed in the life of a kindergarten, like a duck in the water. He does not need any careful acquaintance. But with a sensitive three-year-old who still strongly feels dependent on his mother, the situation is different. When the mother leaves him in the garden for the first time, he may not raise the noise immediately, although some time later he will miss his mother. Having discovered that she is not there, he is frightened. The next day he does not want to leave the house. Such an addicted child needs to be accustomed to a kindergarten gradually. For a few days, mom can be around when he plays with other children, and then take him home. Each next day, this time increases slightly. In the meantime, the child becomes accustomed to the teacher and other children, and this will give him confidence when his mother no longer remains with him. Sometimes a child for several days seems quite pleased, even after the departure of his mother. Then he suddenly hurt hurt and the mother will demand. In this case, the teacher must decide whether the mother should return for a few days. When the mother is in the kindergarten, she should not stay in sight. The idea is that the child has a desire to stay in the group and forget about his need for a mother.
Sometimes mother worries more than a child. If she says three times to him with an alarmed look on his face, he becomes infected with her anxiety: "She looks like something terrible will happen to me if I stay here. So I better not stay. "For a loving mother it is natural to worry about a child when she leaves it for the first time. Consult with the teacher. She has much more experience.
When a child does not want to go to a kindergarten in which skilled and understanding teachers work, he is afraid of it, parents should calmly and confidently explain to him that all children go to the kindergarten every day. Ultimately, it is better for a child to outgrow her dependence on her parents than to preserve her. If a child struggles to part with his mother, it sometimes helps, if within a few weeks his father takes him. If the child shows strong fear, the situation should be discussed with the psychiatrist.