Youthful maximalism

Teenagers. I do remember. Nothing good. Your cute kid suddenly turns into some completely unfamiliar creature: at best in a gloomy beech, at worst - in a real monster from the underworld.

So, the first rule in this section is: do not panic! Everything happens as it should. Not you alone fell this test - almost the same in this period is experienced by the vast majority of parents. The minority gets off with a slight fright;but if the child you have not one, it is almost incredible that you will not feel how it is to be the parents of a teenager. And I'm afraid if this suddenly happened, it's not entirely normal.

Have you ever forgotten how the crisis of two years was experienced with your child? Teenage in many respects repeats it, only in much larger and scary scales. The two-year-old first becomes aware of himself separately from his parents and begins to experience the limits of what is permitted in the light of a new self-realization. Similarly, a teenager tries to find his own way in life and follow it without your support. He needs the freedom of action, the opinion about the limits of which you and he may not coincide.

Add to this hormonal bursts and shifts, really capable of influencing the intellectual and social functions( do not believe it - look online), and probably, you will not be surprised that a quiet life has suddenly ended.

Some of the children known to me completely got rid of teenage complexes by the age of 16-17, others continued to cling to them as much as twenty, but at some point and to some extent this period still has to end. In general, those who enjoyed being a child, often with younger children in the family, who were satisfied with this role, this crisis comes later than those who dreamed of growing up from the preschool age. But all the children who want to free themselves from parental influence pass through it.

TINEJOURNEY IN MANY REPEATS THE CRISIS OF TWO YEARS, ONLY IN MUCH MORE AND SCARY SCALES.

One of my friends, when she was eighteen years old, had already decided that she, as they say, had "flown through", because until that moment she had not noticed any significant manifestations of teenage rebellion or anything like that. What a cruel disappointment befell her in six months, when her daughter suddenly became gloomy and irritable and acquired all the other "joys" of the adolescent period, from which her peers had already largely disposed of. So, as you can see, vigilance can not be lost!