Kindergarten or professional maternity?

From the story of the parents of one of our five-year-old friend. .. The boy told them:

- If you do not need me, you can not take me out of the garden. True, I will suffer very much. .

And here's what another five year old friend asked my parents:

- Give me a cell phone on New Year's Eve so I can call my mother from the garden.

And this is our dialogue with the third five-year-old boy:

- Do you go to the garden every day?

- No, when I'm not ill.

And our Katya had somehow communicated at the age of two with a cousin who attended a kindergarten. And then at home, tilting my head to one side and looking up, straight at that, asked me:

- Do you understand?

In a word, so: if there is a possibility that the wife was the mother in full, you should prefer this option. Already by the statements of five-year experts only.

Well, if in essence, then the kindergarten with the "leaving" the preschool child in it without parents in any case does not stand up to criticism. This is the product of soulless Soviet and soulless American systems. Separation from parents can not be motivated by the fact that socialization is necessary. Socialization must be carried out without this separation.

And if we talk about "we have in Russia," that is, what to add to this general philosophy. At all after all in general the residual principle of payment of teachers of teacher training Universities and payment of workers of kindergartens. What professional qualities are there? But one more thing is added to this. I taught for a long time in the teacher training Universities. And he came to the conclusion that we should also teach at the school itself. And he taught there to teach students how to teach children. But I was an exception. The university is usually taught by those who no longer teach children. Maybe they taught before, but now they do not. In a medical college, associate professors operate and teach students to operate directly in the operating room. And in the pedagogical universities there is no such. Including pre-school faculties. Well, what can teach in pedagogy a person who professionally does not deal with children. .. No, of course, there can be exceptions. There are moral and professional geniuses in preschool education. But there are so few of them that do not take this into account. Of course, some associate professors and professors take research staff from the corresponding research institutes. But how do they take it? Only from books and articles? Ochchen interesting. So, some develop methods, others teach future specialists a practical. .. Or is there somewhere a children's institution in which a senior researcher trains an assistant professor? Again, the assistant professor of medicine and heals and teaches. And in pedagogy I do not know this. Rather, in such cases, the student in training and production practices takes from the specialists of practicals something. Or he himself works and learns, taking something from those of others, inventing something on his own.

Do not expect that commercial options will help either. In commercial kindergartens and schools are also far from the best professionals. Most often these are commercially aggressive people.(As well as in private medical clinics.) A real professional( schizoid or epileptoid) remains in state institutions, he does not like changes, it is difficult for him to adapt.

So that kindergartens in general, and now even more so, I do not like.

But how to be then with communication on a horizontal level, with socialization? Lena and I decided that it is better to go with the child to different development centers. They are now a dime a dozen, you can choose. But there are also disadvantages here. First, development centers, as a rule, work on a commercial basis, and people in them pursue basically the goal of earning. In one such center I talked with a probable "teacher".The image, including speech, and the psychotechnics of communication were as follows:

- Well, if I have seats, then I, perhaps, will take your child. But there are no places yet.

And yet there are more options.

Another minus: in developing centers parents are not allowed to attend classes. This is also a kind of pedagogy? Lena and I did not approach such pedagogy.

Katya we drove to the development center "RAINBOW" in the South-Eastern District of Moscow. Inexpensive. The teacher of pedagogical education - sweet and delicate Svetlana Aleksandrovna uses different methods for developing the mind of three-four-sachets. It introduces concepts in a game form, old as the world, simple and at the same time necessary. The words "thick" and "thin" approach the painted tree trunk, and the words "wide" and "narrow" fit the fence boards. Babes are confused, and Svetlana Aleksandrovna unravels these concepts in their heads. And Danila learned: a thick tree and a broad board. A wide tree is not good. Marianna understood the difference in the expressions "behind the fence" and "under the fence."And all this was with pictures, with the "invitation to visit" lesovic, made from spruce cones: eyes - from plasticine, a beard - a piece of cotton. ..

I liked it all. But at home I still preferred a different method. We just talked with Katya on everyday topics, but at a slightly higher conceptual level compared to what children of her age use. For example, I enter the word "lexicon" in its lexicon. I repeatedly use it in my statements: "You have enriched the lexicon", "Add to your lexicon the word" porcupine "," The word "kindness" is often used in the lexicon of the Russian person.

She singled out new words and asked: what is it? I used the word "conciseness", Katya asked:

- What is brevity?

If you did not ask, then I turned her attention to a new word or subtleties of usage. That is, everything happens naturally.

But I do not mind technology like Svetlana Alexandrovna. You can combine. Although we ourselves could have done so, but Svetlana Alexandrovna still has a systemic methodology. She is an enthusiastic person, her children love her. Important variety for Katie. In addition, there are still babies. And Katya communicates with them "horizontally," on the same level.

In the "Rainbow" a lot of things: a trunk, branches, behind a fence, under a fence. .. And systematically. And at home: a flock of birds, a herd of horses, a pack of dogs. At home we generalize: pigeon, blue cedar, sparrow - all birds;coat, jacket, coat, windbreaker - outer clothing. .. It's harder to continue: the child, the foal, the calf, the wolf are the cub. .. The branch is part of the tree, the wing is part of the bird, the petal is the part of the flower. The concept of "part" is being developed. Further - more: apple-tree - a kind of tree, pear - a kind of tree, lilac - a kind of a bush. .. The concept "kind" unlike concept "part" is developed. .. Thinking deepens. .. But also it yet all. Types of movies: game, documentary, animated - Katya understands all this. You can deal with the child and so.

In the "Rainbow" is not all rosy. Svetlana Alexandrovna only stuffs her hand, so that mistakes happen. She began to give the children sun for success, and for mistakes - the cloud. And now Danila was offended:

- Why did they give me the cloud, I sat well?

Mito know that Sukhomlinsky urged teachers not to put marks even in the first and second grades of the school. Of course, four-year olds do not stand up to the assessment.

And Misha did not cry at all, does not want to study, grandmother said to him: "Do it - I'll buy you juice."Misha first said: "Three juices. .." Then he ran out: "I do not want juice, just take it."

The typical disadvantage of many such developmental centers, as I have already said, is the exclusion of parents from their classes. Teachers fear that parents will distract, interfere, interfere. .. And, in the line of least resistance, parents are not included in the class. But what can be at six years in school, it is unlikely to be correct in four. ..

In the "Green Door" the opposite is true: the presence of the parents - please, but no program. Yes, in the tight giant

Moscow has a "GREEN DOOR".Entering it through a really literally secret green door. It opens, however, on the first call. And "secret" it - because it's really hard to find it. Imagine all the same, as in the film "With a light steam".Only din equally soulless concrete boxes in new buildings on the outskirts of Moscow and Leningrad, and here - soulless "European-repair" mansions, mansions, mansions, mansions. .. in the streets of old Moscow. And here are secret paths between these mansions, mansions, mansions. .. we find the coveted "Green Door" - a pedagogical miracle of the XX century, organized by the Francoise Dolto Foundation. This French teacher wrote a beautiful, in my opinion, book "On the side of the child."But so thick that only Lena managed to overcome her in our family. I look into it, like in the Old Testament, for getting positive emotions, but I'm still studying. The "green door" is the last and posthumous work of Dolto. And also wonderful.

Firstly, you are met by benevolent geniuses of communication. You explain everything, write down the name of the child on the board. Tell us about the rules. Since this is intended for children under four years of age, the emphasis is on mastering the subject world. Mosaics, markers, drawing sheets, easels, puzzles. You can do "water procedures": pouring, pouring, pouring. .. You can ride a bike, slide down the hill, creep along the tunnel. There are prohibitions: you can not occupy a common green road, you can not take toys from each other.

Parents feed their children, drink tea with them. They jiggle while the children play. ..

The main principle here is self-development: children do everything themselves, help is minimal - change clothes for using with water.

I'm for it. Many times I visited the "Green Door" with Katya and Lena. He left three of his books in this charitable corner, which was received with appreciation. I'll come especially to give this book too. Especially - because Katya is already an overgrown, and this God-friendly institution is meant for children under four. Katya dreams of the "Green Door", says that she has a "green key".We support this analogy of her with a fairy-tale "golden key".Because in the "Green Door" and in fact there is something fabulous, attractive.

By the way, the "Green Door" does not require a fee. Although you can make a truly voluntary contribution, and no one controls the amount of the contribution. And even if you did not put anything in the piggy bank, they will treat you the next time as friendly as the previous visit.

But let's have no idealism: Francoise Dolto, fund, free of charge, in the center of Moscow. .. This is an exception to the rules. And what about the rules and games with them?

What do we, parents, do in the conditions of given rules of the game? If radically, then do not accept, but change the conditions. Solve the issue of priorities. Should the oligarchs continue to be able to buy imported sports clubs or force them, like in Sweden, to pay such taxes so that they can be trained by normal educators and have normal children's institutions? Further, it is necessary to decide whether to develop primarily sports with its competitiveness, with its struggle for centimeters and seconds, or develop primarily mass physical education and moral-psychological, aesthetic, intellectual penates?

Well, if we continue to exist in these far from humane conditions, then. .. let the parent pedagogy thrive. Parents let them unite for communication and development of children. And for this, there must be free parents. That is, they should have free time. In accordance with the constitution, father can not work. .. and engage in upbringing and economy. But the legislation has yet to catch up and only become constitutional in the family plan. Terms such as "breadwinner", "dependency", sound not only unconstitutional, but also monstrously archaic, and most importantly, immoral. The moral consciousness of the people must undergo the same process. In the meantime, okay, let's be more natural to consider this "sexual shift".Let even with the working father, mother deals mainly with education. And the "Orthodox" our state should realistically assess its contribution. Paying her not 70 rubles, but "a little" more. Father, let him also participate in what we are about to say. In the meantime, experts understand that all this is necessary, "saving children is the business of their parents."

Agree with each other that the contribution to the father's family is largely to the fact that he earns and brings into the house a certain total income. And the wife's contribution is that she is professionally engaged in children.(Then the mother should receive a psi ■ holopedagogical minimum.) But the main thing is that EVERY OF SPOILERS THINKS THAT his contribution to the family will be EQUIVALENTED to the CONTRIBUTION OF ANOTHER.

And not "I keep you with the baby".This we have already discussed above. But once again to remind - porridge with oil not to spoil.

In this situation, the kindergarten falls away for its uselessness and inferiority. The only argument for a kindergarten is the need for socialization. Anthony Kempinski( remember his idea that the mask is tired and neurotic?) Said that children need horizontal relations( with peers), and not only vertical( with adults).There is a problem here, but not completely solvable without Sadovsky's sadism. Parents with children can unite to socialize children in groups. Mostly this will be for sure engaged in "mamulechki", but with a reasonable allocation of working time, the popes can also be included in this matter. If they teach at the university, like me, then you can free up the days. We need less work and more children. To do this, you can minimize other needs. Do not need expensive sports and expensive "rest".It is necessary to deal with children in organized parent groups. Even without paid psychologists, but from books. Including my own.

Lena and I have experience of studying with kids, four-year-olds, friends of our Katya. I remember Octavianus Augustus was not an emperor. He was princeps, the first among equals. And I was like a princeps in a group of parents, that is, I took the leadership role. We developed this method not as an author's program, but as a technology that can be used by a group of parents without psychoedagogical education. There is nowhere to go - we share this experience. I tell you all the same, as we did, unlike the development centers like "Rainbow" and unlike the "Green Door".

Parents did not leave our child in charge, but participated in the process. But all the same the children are "in the aquarium", and the parents are outside of it. During the lesson, it was forbidden to talk about life as it was possible in the Green Door. This ban is removed during a break for tea. There you can gossip, but children - on an equal footing with their parents, are included in the general conversation.

In general, we have every child - a subject, not an object. He is not punished and he is not forbidden. The undesirable action of the child

is stopped by switching his attention. If this does not work out, then you need to take a break. Classes are held in a game form.

The program as such is missing, everything goes by gravity. But all the same, there is a plan. I told that our Katya we are taking lessons in rhythmic gymnastics at the Children's Sports Palace. No, we are not going to make an athlete out of her, but while she is passionate about the movements: she likes to "sleep on twine", stand on her head and twist the tape. And I like that she likes it. So, it was there, in the Palace of children's sports, in the advertisement I saw the phrase "strong thinking".This psychologists in the sports palace recruited a group of children. I liked the word combination;unfortunately, I did not see the names of psychologists in the announcement, but I quote them with gratitude. I also thought it significant that the leaders of the Children's Sports Palace gave psychologists a playground. Indeed, together with the strength of the muscles, it is necessary to develop thinking( I would add: morality).And we want children to develop not so much the strength of the muscles as the power of thinking. Note, however, that in our understanding this is somewhat different than in the announcement of the psychologists quoted above.