The illusion of comparative evaluation

We continue the questioning on Socrates. It's us, in each other, revealed the minuses, because we communicate in problems. And with other people we continue to communicate mostly in entertainment. And they easily show us their positive qualities, hiding the cons. Also what then it turns out?

- Its bad, and the stranger - good. ..

- Well, if in the statistical plan?

- All around good, but my bad.

Good, bad is all integral estimates. Well, let's concretize. Predator. Greedy. The dirt. Coward. The main thing is that the people around are demonstrating positive things, but they are hiding the negative. And we know our own already deeper, because they interacted for a long time. .. and because everything is in problems, and there - everything is in entertainment. Of course, positive problems can also be revealed in problems: resourcefulness, fidelity. But more often we pay attention to the negative, revealed in the problems.

Well, what is this - an objective reflection of the correlation of pros and cons? No. This is an illusion again. The illusion of comparative evaluation - so her, damned, we will name. It just seems that all around are good, and my bad. Of course, each person is in moderation better, in moderation worse on some qualities than the other. But it seems to us that ours is much worse. But it seems now that we have learned its minuses;earlier, when he dissolved his peacock's tail, he seemed so wonderful And the conclusion from here is an odiumin. .. How could I not be lucky And I'm worthy of a better share. The illusion of comparative evaluation develops with the illusion of mutual evaluation and tears the marriage ties, which in the eyes of the spouses become fetters. Is this really the end of the days? In a clouded mind, new bright plans are being constructed, again the hope is born that "there is a World and except Rome".And now you are already Hercules, breaking the chains.

Ah, "if I knew my youth." Only after changing several wives or several husbands does a person come to the conclusion that all

is new under the moon, that the rivers flow in order to flow again and that a person reveals himself and is aware of the problems. We begin to understand that in another version - all the same, albeit with some variations. Again, if you find the charm in the sport, to get as many partners as possible, if you see the romance in the change of illusions. .. then the free will. In hypertensive psychopaths( see in detail below - sooo much text) this is true, but there will be a lot of their problems.

And if a person realizes that in another variant everything will be the same, only with children they will have to live apart, and to build a house and grow a tree again - it's troublesome, then maybe it will not be worth it, he thinks, to get divorced... It is not necessary, it is not necessary. .. Especially as we are faced with the knowledge of the third illusion - the illusion of self-esteem.