what do children need most from their parents or from the one who replaces them?

The needs of children at different ages are different. In the first year of life the child needs a lot of maternal care. He does not eat, he needs to be fed, he eats often, and his food is usually different from eating adults. It should be washed very much. In the city it must be taken out for a walk in a stroller. In order for him to develop normally, he must feel love for himself, someone should think that he is the most wonderful child in the world, someone should talk to him and lisp, embrace him and smile at him, make up his company when he does not sleep.

A nursery or a family that accepts children for a fee for a baby is not very good. There is not so much attention and love waiting for him. In most cases, they take care of him mechanically and efficiently, and not gently and with love. In addition, there is a sharp increase in the risk of epidemics, colds and indigestion.

Individual care at least up to three years. A child whose mother can not be with him in the daytime needs

personal care - in her home or in someone else's. Perhaps it will be a relative, neighbor or girlfriend whom the mother knows and trusts. If a new nanny or housekeeper comes into the house, the mother should know her well before leaving the child in her care. Or the mother can decide to leave him for a day in the family in which a woman earns a living by taking her children to her. But a woman should do this not only because she needs money, but also because she loves children. The only reliable way to find such a house is through a special agency that carefully inspects such homes before recommending them to parents. But in any case, the woman chosen by the mother should be attentive and loving;At the same time, she should not have more than two, at most three children.

At the age of one to three, the child takes less time, but much more understanding. It's good for him to be with other children. Now he is a person, and he has his own ideas. He needs more and more opportunities for self-reliance, he needs to be guided tactfully. If adults are too despotic, the child is stubborn and capricious. A person who is not very confident in himself, can not cope with it. If a child is too cared for, it hinders his development. Moreover, at this age he is accustomed to depend on one or two devotees, and he worries greatly if one of them disappears or if something changes.

At this time, the mother who constantly looked after him, it is extremely undesirable to return to work or change those who care about the child. In most nurseries there are not enough educators to give each child the consciousness of belonging to someone. Workers of nurseries may not have sufficient training to understand small children and will not be able to ensure their spiritual, social and physical development.

So if you need to go to work when your child is a year, the best way out is individual care, like the smallest child. But at this age it is especially important to find a person who understands children and easily converges with them. And he will not refuse a few months from work.