What harm does nagging parents and children do?
May 28, 2018
Cathy whines to get her share of parental attention. Her sense of self-worth is wrongly formed. Children, as well as parents, need to feel their importance, to occupy a certain place in the family. If there is no positive role, the children will choose the negative.
Snoring helps Kathy feel his worth, and also makes all the other family members do what she wants. She has found her place - she is satisfied with the role of a whining, capricious baby, who will eventually grow into an offbeat and hysterical "adult child."Later in the article, we will talk about how to help children find their place in the family, learn to be responsible and hardworking, to think not only about themselves, but also about others.
It should be noted that Katie skillfully uses her "weakness" to control other family members. With the help of whining she achieves the desired and self-affirming. The girl perfectly understands what will be the reaction of adults to her whining: angry, scream, and then all the same concede.
This behavior will continue until Katie's parents change their behavior and reaction to whining.
Cathy has found a way to manage family members, she will continue to provoke parents to obtain confirmation of their importance. The baby feels that her mother often doubts the correctness of her actions, and uses this uncertainty, pretending to be weak and dependent.
By making concessions, Andrea does not just surrender to the mercy of the "little tyrant";she begins to doubt her parental qualities. We do not in any way want to say that Katie whines purposely to get her share of attention and significance. Most likely, one day she discovered that this behavior allows you to control other people, and now repeats it again and again. That is why it is so important that parents change their reaction to whining.
If you do not put an end to whining, then it can develop into a style of behavior. Becoming an adult, Cathy will continue to pursue her through tears and hysterics, striving to always be in the spotlight. This behavior prevents the establishment of harmonious relationships, and in the future, Katie will find it difficult to find a good friend, husband and maintain a warm, trusting relationship with them.
If Cathy does not learn to constructively solve her problems, empathize, be independent, she will remain the victim for life.
What can not be done in response to whining:
• cede requirements;
• show your irritation;
• show anger and despair;