When the child wears other
Although children like to be worn by parents, they get used to babysitters better if they wear them in a bag to which they have long been accustomed."House" for a small child in a bag. Brian, one of the kids we see, calls sum-ku-sling "my little house."
Bag and nanny
Parents of children with high demands often confess to us that they are afraid to leave their children with someone else, because no one else is able to calm their own children. Children with high needs who are used to being worn in a bag, the nurse is easier to reassure if she becomes wearing them. Barbara, a busy mother whose only hope of survival was to constantly wear her demanding child, told the following story: "Jay-son is so pleased when he lies in a bag that I feel calm, leaving him for a short time with the nanny.
Sometimes, if I'm in a hurry, I meet the nanny at the door, I give her Jason-in right in the bag - like a baton in the relay race - and she continues to wear it instead of me. It does not occur to him to be capricious, and I feel better knowing that everything is going the way he likes. "
Bag and older children
When we, adults, carry babies, we set an example for our older children, accustoming them to the fact that the big ones are wearing small children. Children and grandchildren in the future will rather choose the parental approach that they experienced or witnessed. For example, our children sometimes "wore" their dolls in homemade children's bags, because they saw that we very often wear a newborn baby. The effect of forming a child's understanding of the relationship between mother and child once returned to us when our six-year-old daughter, Hay-den, the teacher asked to draw a mother with a child. She portrayed them as one creature. She understood that, at least in the first months of life, the mother is carrying a child and they are an indivisible whole.
Special groups: adolescents and seamen
Adolescent girls usually wear children willingly, but this style of caring for a child is not easy to teach
to adolescent boys. That's how our son Peter at the age of fourteen years addicted to wearing in his bag of his then two-month-old brother, Stefan. Martha was asked to talk with a group of servicemen's wives at the local naval base. Theme - how to get their husbands to take a greater part in the care of the child. Martha suggested to try bags-slings of protective color. Which was done. And fathers loved to wear their "little sailors" in their bags. Peter, fond of the army at that time, could not wait for him to be able to put on his protective bag and carry his little brother in it.
It is very important to bring up tenderness in boys. What kind of warm feeling spills over your heart when you see men and boys caring for babies.