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  • How to help a child become sociable and earn the recognition of friends.

    These are the first steps parents will help a child to live in society and be recognized by them: do not fuss around the baby in the early years;from the age of one to give him the opportunity to stay with other children;grant him the freedom necessary for the development of independence;make as few changes as possible in the house and kindergarten;allow him, if possible, to dress, talk and play like other children in the neighborhood, give him as much pocket money and resolve everything else that they allow, even if you do not approve of how they grow.(Of course, I do not mean permission to carry myself as an inveterate hooligan.)

    How a person's relationship develops at work, in the family and in society, depends largely on how he ate with other children in the early years. If parents have formed high expectations and ideals for a child, those becoming part of his character will ultimately affect, even if in childhood he too passed a period of rude speech and bad manners. But if the parents are dissatisfied with the neighbors and their children, if they inspire the child that he is not like others, do not allow him to be friends with the children of the neighbors, the child may never learn to unite with people and will never feel happy. Thus, his high demands will not bring benefit to the world, or to him himself.

    If it is difficult for a child to make friends, a school with a flexible program will help. The teacher must organize the lesson so that each child can participate in the common cause. So children learn to see good qualities in others and appreciate them. A good teacher, respected by the class, can increase the popularity of the child, showing the rest that she appreciates it. It also helps if he is sent to a popular student or given a school assignment, which they will carry out together.

    Something parents can do at home. Be hospitable and friendly when your child leads home to play friends. Tell him to invite them to dinner, and feed them what they consider particularly tasty. When you are going to take trips, picnics, excursions, go to the movies or some entertainment on the weekend, invite the child with whom you want to make friends( not necessarily the one with whom you would like him to be friends).Children, like adults, have their own self-interest, and they tend to appreciate those who give them pleasure. Naturally, you do not want your child to "buy" popularity: such popularity is fragile. Your goal is to give him a push, to help him enter the group, which, perhaps, eschews him because of the group isolation inherent in this age. And if he has the necessary qualities, he can continue on his own and achieve true friendship.