If the child bites and fights
For the most part, bites and spanking during the game, no matter how terrible they may seem to outside observers and injured, are normal communication tools for the child, and not an expression of malice and aggression. Most of the child's activity is centered around the hands and mouth, and it is perfectly normal for him to use these parts of the body as tools for communication. The child loves to experiment, biting and bobbing various surfaces, both to find out what sensations appear in this case, and to see the reaction. During the hysterics, the children of
usually bite and beat parents or other familiar adults who are trusted, not strangers. Do not take it too much to heart. Yes, children bite the hand that feeds them.
In addition to performing the function of communication tools, bites and strokes are a form of negative, aggressive behavior that can affect all those who are at the other end of sharp fangs and claws. Suppress the impulse to reach the muzzle and handcuffs. There are simpler ways to tame a child who likes to bite and fight.
Show an alternative. Give the child the words and gestures of for expressing feelings. Help him to learn how to make a good impression, and not to imprint his teeth in your skin: "Do not bite. .. my mother is hurt!" Suggest alternative communicative gestures: "Hug Daddy. .. give five."
Find out what causes this behavior. Keep a diary, recording what circumstances cause aggressive behavior, for example, too many children in a small space, as well as overload and fatigue at the end of the day. Look at the situation through the eyes of your child to see why he bites or fights. Maybe he is tired, bored, hungry or the situation causes a splash of irritation?
Soften the game. If you notice that your child is malicious, give an example of soft actions and games, such as hug a bear, stroke a pussy, as you love a doll. A sign of increasing aggression in a child is that during games he constantly knocks toys, arranges collisions of cars and hits each other about dolls. Although this is a normal game, it is important to maintain a balance of aggressive play and soft play. In addition, explain the difference between bear hugs( which are good for mom and dad) and hugging hugs( which for his peer friends are more suitable).
Keep an eye out. Do not despair
from your child if he bites and fights when he plays with other children, and let other moms know that they too are on guard. If your child bites or bumps another child, immediately divorce the children and isolate the offender for a while, so that he thinks about his behavior. Strengthen the effectiveness of punishment with appropriate instructions: "If you bite, it hurts, and it's painful to do, and now we'll sit in a chair and think why you should not bite."If the child can speak and understands enough, pull out of it: "Forgive me."It is necessary that your child learns the connection between the bite and the immediate removal from the crime scene.
This may be the first lesson for him that bad behavior leads to bad consequences.
Remove the Jupiters. Fans of biting( and fighting) usually become the center of attention: "Beware, he bites!" If you come to the conclusion that the child bites to attract attention, show the child more acceptable ways to attract attention. Praise him for good behavior and reduce the value of bites.
Example, example and example again.
A child who lives among aggression becomes aggressive. Once I witnessed that a child struck his mother about two years later and immediately attacked him: "Do not hit me," and she hit him on the arm. It is clear where this child learned to give his arms to the will. In addition, you do not need to bite the child in response. If you pile upon the immature behavior of one stupid behavior of another, this will only exacerbate the problem. However, it is important to give the child to feel that when he bites, it hurts.
Show and tell. If he does not take your word for it that it hurts, here is a technique that parents successfully use to convey to the child the essence of their words: press the child's hand against his upper teeth, as if he bit himself, but do not do it viciously andAG Stay and cool
For most two-year-olds this is a simple punishment, which follows that they did not listen to your remarks, has a strong enough impact. There is no need to assume a severe or angered appearance;in fact, you will only reduce the training value of this punishment. The child must understand that if he commits an illegal act, this will lead to the suspension of all activities. Depending on the age and nature of the child, a break of one to five minutes, during which he sits on a chair, is all you need. If the child can not obediently serve a sentence, you can sit next to him to control. In any case, it's a little quiet to sit together - this can be exactly what you need both. You can start by holding it in place;this is good, and perhaps you will even be able to achieve that he expresses his feelings in words, or you can express them with words for him.
is passive. Fix the marks he left on his own hand, with the words: "You see, when you bite, it hurts!" Teach this lesson immediately after your child bites someone so that he has a connection between the bites in his head andpain.
Affected relationship. Your
little nipper can cost you the best friend. The parents of the child who bites are horrified and confused;the parents of the bitten child are naturally upset because their child is hurt and both sides are offended. If your child bites or fights, warn the parents of the children with whom he is playing in advance and ask them to help you to reason with your child. Perhaps they themselves have gone through a period of aggressive behavior among their children, and they will appreciate your honesty and give good advice. Having warned them, you also make it clear that you are worried about their children and do not want them to suffer.
Note for offending parents of a bitten child: instead of going to the abuser's parents and telling them that they have a bad child( they already feel very guilty about it), show understanding. Offer your help. So you not only keep friendly relations, but also free these parents from feeling that they are "bad parents".
As soon as your child learns to speak better, most likely, he will cease to dissolve his hands and teeth, and you will forget about these troubles.