Quarrels between children

If you have more than one child, you are probably familiar with child quarrels. Some quarrel more often, others - less often, but quarrel all. And the most offensive, in your opinion, is that most often these quarrels arise from scratch. Or not?

What difference does it make who this computer game belongs to? Or who shoes "cooler"?Or who should leave the house first( yes, my children could really argue frantically on this)?Of course, you would answer shortly and clearly - no. For you, at least.

However, it turns out, it is important that children learn to quarrel. Because, until they learn how to quarrel properly, they will not learn not to quarrel. You did not notice that children who did not have sisters or brothers growing up worse experienced any conflicts( maybe this applies to you yourself)?Usually such people are compelled to struggle with the tendency to excessive aggressiveness, or, on the contrary, with propensity to excessive submission;while the best diplomats in life are obtained precisely from those who were not the only child in the family.

The only way to learn everyday diplomacy, compromise and other such things that little children do not own( and, alas, many adults) are quarrels. Quarrels teach us how to and can not be treated with people if we want to interact with them. The child grows and gradually realizes that it is more difficult for the brother to agree on something if to beat him or that the sister will not let him into his room if he does not let her into his. It is much more difficult to understand such things, interacting with friends. First of all, because it's so easy to stay without friends at all. On the other hand, the sister or brother will never say: "I will not be your sister( brother) unless you play with me."Brothers and sisters have an infinite potential for forgiveness, if only because they have no other choice.

GRAINS LEARN US ABOUT US AS POSSIBLE AND HOW IT CAN NOT BE HANDLED WITH PEOPLE IF WE ARE INTERESTED TO INTERACT WITH THEM.

Disputes between brothers and sisters are often a struggle for status, territory or independence. You should not interfere in such fundamental disputes( even if you are forced to send peacekeeping forces if the conflict goes too far), because you still will not be able to change the innate traits of the child's character, trying to solve everything "in fairness."Look at the political map - the same is true for the countries: neither in the Balkans, nor in the Middle East, nor in Vietnam, attempts to impose on the people their choice from outside have led to nothing. And children's conflicts sometimes are not easier for parents than political conflicts.