Caring based on affection: how it does better than children and parents

For many years that we are engaged in pediatric practice, we have established a clear relationship between different approaches to the child, as well as their lack, and the development of the child. The approach to the child, which gives the best results for most families in most cases, is a caring based on attachment. In Article 1, we listed five instruments of care through attachment, and in subsequent articles discussed how this approach, with the implementation of child care, contributes to the growth and development of the child. Let's briefly repeat the most important points.

Attachment-based care helps children( and parents) develop optimally

All children grow, but not all children grow optimally. Optimum growth is one step higher than simply growth and means that the child is fully reaching its potential. Helping children grow optimally is what we are talking about when we talk about care based on attachment.

Research has confirmed what parents have known for a long time - something good happens when there is strong affection between parents and children. For example:

• For parents who practice care through attachment, children demonstrate an earlier development than children receiving a more strict and detached parental relationship.

• Children who are breastfed on demand are excommunicated in a timely manner, not before the due date, worn in a bag during the day, put in a night sleep next to their mother and who immediately respond to the crying, eventually grow more independent. This approach to the child does not lead, as previously thought, to the fact that children grow excessively dependent.

• Children, whose signs receive a keen attention, will later gain greater confidence in communication.

• Attachment-based care stimulates brain development. In the course of the studies, it was found that children who are nursed sensitively and carefully, gain more points in tests for checking mental development and tests for IQ.

• Young animals that were kept close to their mother, higher levels of growth hormones and enzymes required for brain growth. Separation from the mother or lack of interaction with her causes a decrease in the level of these substances that cause development.

Surprising results were given by these studies of attachment and inseparability. That's what, in our opinion, happens when parents and a child have a strong connection.

Attachment-based care organizes children

Organizing behavior, attachment-based care, helps children save energy. As their day is more organized, children of tied parents cry less than other children. If they cry less, what do they do with their free time? They spend more time in a state of calm vigilance and direct the energy left by them, as they did not have to cry, in growth. In a state of calm vigilance, children interact with their environment and learn everything that is possible about the world around them;in addition, their physiological systems work better.

Caring of the attached parents - good food for the mind

During the infancy the brain grows more than at any other time, doubling its volume by the year and

Keep records of your child

Do you want to create memories that will last a lifetime? Get your own book for your child. Starting with the impressions left after birth, day after day, record the development of your child.

Tips for keeping a diary. Your record keeping system can range from simple and minimal effort, like writing in a notebook, to a child's calendar with labels( otherwise called a child's album) and typing this book on the computer. We came to the fact that it is easiest to keep a pocket recorder ready on the kitchen shelf. Tell him about all the memorable events as soon as they occur, sometimes at the moment when they occur, for example the first steps of the child. Periodically reprint these notes or hire a friend to do it for you.

What to record. The verbosity obscures the main event. Start each note with a title that is highlighted in the book format as a theme. Then it will be easier then to reread the records and get the information you need. Note the main points of your child's development: he first sat down himself, took the first step, said the first words. Fix also funny episodes and funny skits - we call them "catching the day": "Today I caught Johnny because he was unrolling toilet paper all over the room!" And do not forget about special occasions, such as birthdays. Insert special notes about the VA-

helmet development. For example, you can react to baby signals so that it will astonish you: "Did I succeed?" Or: "It worked!" Allow your wisdom and discoveries to be deposited in your memory.

In the first months or years, you will probably add new articles daily or weekly, because the child does so many new things so quickly. As the child grows up or the reporter becomes tired, you can proceed to recording only the headlines of major events or deliver messages once a month. It's funny then to open a diary of your child and compare how he was then and how he became now. It will also help you to reconnect with your growing child in those periods of your life, when the fleeting memories of childhood faded in your mind. You can even give a copy of your book( it's easier to make a duplicate if the text is printed) to your "baby" as a wedding gift or when he or she becomes a parent. Finding in your book records about those moments when he was capricious or when he forced his parents to spend sleepless nights, your grown child will be able to benefit from the way he was nursed.

reaching about 60% of the adult brain size. When the brain grows, nerve cells, the so-called neurons, like kilometers of tangled electrical wires, multiply rapidly. When a child is born, most of these wires are not connected. During the first year of life, these neurons learn to work better and connect with each other to form chains that give the child an opportunity to think and do more things. The more a child interacts with his environment, the more nervous connections he has and the better his brain develops. Attached parents help the developing brain to have good connections.