Reasonably use praise
Congratulations! Almost a quarter of the way to the goal has passed - the right to be called really correct parents.
Why did I commend you? That you have increased energy and enthusiasm. And at the same time to recall what is known to every right parent: your praise can and should be the best reward for your children. Just like you can not leave them without gifts on your birthday, you should not and leave without praise any of their achievements.
Yes, but it's not so easy, right? How many families do you know where parents use the most wise way of praise? To praise wisely means to praise in the right volume, in the right way and for the right actions.
The expression "good little by little" with all fairness can be attributed to praise. No, I'm not saying that you should not be able to get a good word from you;the point is that the degree of praise should be in line with the child's achievements. If you constantly praise him, he will stop appreciating your opinion on merit;if you call a child a genius for some completely ordinary result, then you will not have the right words for really serious success. And if every little thing is too generous to you to be rewarded, the child will most of all in the world be afraid to stop justifying your expectations. This is too hard a load on the child's psyche, and you can not allow this.
Have you ever wondered, for which in the first place are usually inclined to praise their children? For example, what can a child think of your priorities if you constantly praise him for good grades, but do not express your attitude to his behavior? Or your approval is caused solely by victories, and if the child tried his best, but still failed to achieve success, you do not notice it? It's not about you? Of course, you are the right parents. However, many people do just that.
Indeed, very often parents "forget" to praise the child for his good behavior, taking it as a matter of course, and therefore not worthy of special mention. But this approach is wrong: children must receive a clear confirmation of your indifference to what and how they do."How good that you did not pick your nose at Aunt Myrtle". .. "You must be very tired, but still did not complain. Just a fine fellow! "- hearing from you similar words, the child gets an incentive and next time to do the same.
And the last comment on this rule. Do you think that the child will prefer to hear from you: "What a pretty picture!" - or: "What a pretty picture! I like how you got a running horse. How did you draw it so that it looks like a living one? "Did you understand? Yes, you must express a sincere interest in what the child managed to do, noting any specific details and asking him questions. In this case, you will surely see how your child will shine with joy and pride.