Attachment-based care - it seems exhausting. Is this an endless marathon of dedication?
A loving care based on affection - at first it can scare its complexity, but in the long term it is in fact the simplest type of relationship with the child. At first you give a lot. This is inevitable in the life of young parents. Children take, and parents give. But the meaning that we want you to get imbued with, and which we emphasize throughout this book, lies in the mutual benefit of - the more you give your
to the child, the more the child gives you. This is how you grow to be happy with your child and feel more competent parent. Remember that your child is not just a passive participant in the game. Your baby takes an active role in shaping your relationship, helps you make wise decisions while you learn to be perceptive and understand your child.
Mutual recoil has a biological side. When a mother breastfeeds a child, she gives food and coziness. The suckling movements of the child, in turn, stimulate the production of hormones, which later help the woman to behave like a sensitive mother, which was already noted earlier. The reason that your child often falls asleep at the breast, lies in the fact that your milk contains a sleep-stimulating substance, only recently opened. While you are breastfeeding your child, your body produces more hormone prolactin, which has a calming effect on you. It turns out that the mother lulls her child, and the child lulls his mother.
What is really hard in the parenting business is the feeling: "I do not know what he wants" or "It seems I just can not get through to it."When you feel that you really know your child and are confident in your relationship, caring for a child is easier and less stressful. There is a huge sense of lightness because you have good contact with the child. Sensitive care is the best known way to make contact. Indeed, this type of relationship requires great patience and endurance, but it's worth it! Loving care based on attachment from the earliest days facilitates the relationship with the child in the future, not only in the first years of life, but also in the transition period. The ability to understand your child and react correctly turns into the ability to penetrate into the inner world of your child and see things by his or her eyes. When you really know your child, it's easier for you to communicate with him at any age.
At times, you may be wondering if your child will ever end a period when he especially needs you. Will end! The time spent in your arms, at your chest and in your bed, is so comparatively small, and the love you give and the confidence that you inspire with your constant presence will be with your child all your life.