Children repeat the mistakes of their parents

The fact is that you desperately love your child. Therefore, you are unbearable to see how he makes mistakes, which, it seems to you, will still cause trouble in the future. You are already used to letting them make minor flaws - putting too much pudding into a plate or moving too fast on a bicycle from a hill. But the further, the more serious these errors become, and it becomes more difficult for you not to interfere.

Now you have to watch without interfering with the way your son touches a drink at a friend's party, and how a daughter dresses up in too frank dresses. And if you have to witness how your child, whom you dreamed of seeing as a university student, suddenly drops out of school at 16?Or will he give up a wonderful part-time on Saturdays, because he gets bored of getting up early? Yes, it's much harder than letting a two-year-old kid pour a mountain of pudding into a plate. And the stakes are unimaginably higher.

And the hardest part is watching children repeat your mistakes. They are tied up with the natural sciences only because they hate the teacher, absolutely not wanting to abstract and at least try to imagine what a wonderful career they could have made. Or to collect all the money allocated for an educational trip, and spend it on some crazy car, which, at the same time, will not be traveling properly! You could discuss this with them before. Probably, and discussed. Very likely, they discussed it, expressing their opinion loudly and persistently. .. But you yourself listened to what your parents told you many, many years ago?

Understand, you really should not interfere - of course, if the child is not in serious danger due to his decision. And it can also happen that even in a really risky situation you will not have anything but to stand aside and silently observe. The more you try to convince a child of something, the stronger will be his resistance. A teenager needs an object for protest, for an uprising, for which he is programmed. The harder you press, the more it rests. Remember the third law of Newton? The strength of the action is equal to the force of opposition. This law could well be called the first law of teenage.