Jealousy can take many forms.
When a child takes a cube and hits a baby, the mother understands that it's jealousy. But sometimes a child is much more polite. For several days he enthusiastically admires the baby, and then says: "Now take him back to the hospital."The child can, angry at his mother, get, for example, ash and coals from the fireplace and scatter them on the carpet. The other can become whiny and addicted, stop playing in the sandbox or cubes, will go everywhere for the mother, holding on to her hem, and will start to suck a finger. He can again pee on the bed at night or even in the day in panties. Sometimes jealousy for the baby takes on the opposite form. The child is continuously engaged in a younger sister. When he sees a dog, he says: "Our baby loves dogs."When he sees that a friend is riding a tricycle, says: "Our baby also has a bicycle."Of course, he is also alarmed, but he does not admit to himself. Such a child needs help even more than he understands what is displeased.
Parents sometimes say: "We found that we have nothing to fear from his jealousy. Johnny loves his little sister so much. "It's good when a child shows love to a newborn, but that does not mean that he is not jealous and that this jealousy does not need to be paid attention. Jealousy can manifest itself indirectly or in special circumstances. Maybe a child is affectionate with her sister at home, but rudely treats her in the presence of strangers. Jealousy can not manifest for many months, until one day the baby crawls and grabs the toy of the elder. Sometimes a change in feelings occurs when the younger begins to walk.
The mother can say: "Johnny loves the baby so much. He hugs him so tightly that he cries. "In fact, this is not an accident. The child's feelings are contradictory.
It is more reasonable to assume that jealousy and love are always present, regardless of what the child externally manifests. It is necessary not to ignore jealousy, not to try to suppress it by force, not to make the child feel guilty, but to help him achieve the victory of love.