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  • Shy and timid children and "mother's sons".


    The first child in a family who did not have the opportunity to play with other children at the age of two can allow other children to take away their toys and poke themselves in every way. He simply does not understand what is happening, and with tears runs to complain to his mother. This can disturb the father and mother. In most cases, this behavior is temporary and is explained by the lack of experience of communication. If such a child is constantly playing with other children, it is likely that in a few months he will learn to be angry and assert his rights. On the part of the mother, it will be smarter not to show too much concern or sympathy, not to win for the child of his battle, not to tell him that he must share with others, but simply offer to go and take away his toy.

    The second and third children in the family rarely have such problems, probably because they have to defend their rights in a year.

    If a warlike child appears that constantly offends you, and yours becomes more timid, it is wiser to take him to another place, at least for a couple of months;there he will have more opportunities to become braver.

    If after three or four years the child does not know how to give change, you need to consult a child psychiatrist and try to find out what's wrong.

    A father may be alarmed if his two-year-old son prefers to play dolls and puppet carriages. But it's too early to be alarmed. At this age, the child still does not distinguish between male and female occupations. In three years , in most cases, already shows a preference for classes on the basis of gender, and by four this preference becomes even more noticeable. It is quite natural for a boy of three or four years to play with girls, especially if there are no boys of one hundred years old, but if they play in a family, the boy will prefer to act as father or son.

    If a boy is afraid to play with boys in three to four or five years, and prefers to spend time with his mother or with girls, he is probably afraid of being a boy and needs help. He needs a friendly relationship with his father. Sometimes the mother takes too much care of her son, not letting go of him for a single step.

    Biting children. At one-year-old age it is natural for a child to bite her mother's cheek. Cutting teeth make him want to bite all the time, and when he gets tired, I want to bite even more. I do not think it's worth worrying if a child bites the other in a friendly or angry way between year and two.

    After two or two and a half years, it all depends on how often the child bites and how he behaves in other ways. If he is generally happy and sociable, but occasionally battles in fights, it does not really matter. But if most of the time he is nervous or feels unhappy, if he bites other children for no reason, this is a sign that something is wrong. Maybe at home they are too commanded, constantly taught, and he is therefore always tense. Maybe he did not have the opportunity to get used to other children, and he seems to them dangerous and menacing. Maybe he is jealous of a child at home and carries fear and jealousy to all children, as if they are also his rivals. If the case is more complicated and the cause remains unclear, you should seek help from a child psychiatrist.

    Some mothers bitten by a child are asked if they need to bite back. The mother will retain better control over the child if she is friendly and condescending, and does not descend to his level, with bites, screams and fights. In addition, if you bite or slap a one-year-old baby, he will take it as a game or a fight and will want to continue. And if you just look at him reproachfully, he will get mad at you. You just need not let the baby bite you again;when you notice a suspicious glint in his eyes, move aside and make it clear to him that you do not like it and should not happen again.