Obstinacy

The stubbornness between two and three years. At this age, children usually show stubbornness and other signs of internal stress. Stubbornness and "negativism" begin at the age of one year, so there is nothing new in this. But after two years, all this reaches new heights and takes new forms. A one-year-old child contradicts the mother, a two-year-old child is to herself. He ponders his decision very long, and then he suddenly changes it. He behaves like a man who is often commanded, although no one bothers him. He commands himself. Insists on doing things his own way, doing as he always did. And if someone interferes in his studies or encroaches on his property, he becomes enraged.

The impression is as if a child needs to decide everything himself and not let others interfere. When he begins to lead such battles, everything is strained in him, especially if his parents like to pokomandovat. It looks like from six to nine years, when a child tries to get rid of his dependence on his parents, takes responsibility for his behavior, takes offense if he is corrected, and shows an internal tension in various nervous habits.

With a child of two to three years is difficult to cope. Parents should show understanding. We should not interfere too much and do not rush the child. Help him dress or undress, if he allows it. Begin to bathe him early, so that he has time to splash in the tub. For food let him eat himself. When he is stubborn and does not eat, let him get out of the table. When it's time to go to bed, or go for a walk, or go home, lead him, continuing to talk about something pleasant. Do not argue. Do not be discouraged: ahead of you is waiting for an easier sailing.

A child who can not stand the simultaneous presence of parents. Sometimes a child of two and a half or three years gets along well with each parent separately, but when a second parent appears on the stage, he starts to get angry. Perhaps it's partly a matter of jealousy, but it seems to me that at this age, when he is particularly sensitive to attempts to command him and tries to command himself, he believes that he is outnumbered and that he can not cope with two such important people. Most often during this period the father is unpopular, and sometimes he begins to feel that his child hates him. Do not take this too seriously. If a child sometimes plays with his father, he begins to see in him not an invader, but an understanding and loving person. But the child must also understand that parents love each other, they want to be with each other and do not allow themselves to be intimidated.