Overcoming problems after childbirth
The newborn will constantly demand new parent skills. However, the most important for the child among them are three: feeding, crying and sleeping, that is, they are the main problems for you.
During the months preceding the birth of a child, you received a huge amount of information about various ways of caring for it( some of them are described in Chapter 14).However, you need to make sure that the methods chosen by you are not only suitable for the child, but also acceptable to you. If not, it can become a source of your anxiety and, in turn, will turn into an anxious state of the child. Therefore, follow the natural instincts. If, for example, you decide to artificially nurse a baby and not breastfeed it, then do not be surprised afterwards that bottle feeding undermines your emotional connection with the baby, because with
breastfeeding you create a feeling of relaxation and comfort. Try to remember that feeding is not just a physical act of giving nutrients to a child, but also an emotional "nourishment".
RELAXATION IN THE
FEEDING PROCESS Many of the feeding problems that parents experience in the first few months begin with minor complications-perhaps the child does not want to take the breast or does not get to regurgitate milk during feeding-and this could soon turn into agreat difficulties if they are filled with parental anxiety and stress.
Young children are very sensitive and immediately recognize your anxiety - the tension causes your muscles to contract, and if you are tense, the milk may turn out to be less than when you are relaxed. And this, in turn,
If the process of feeding is not the way you want, first of all pay attention to self-confidence. Believe your abilities and tell yourself that minor difficulties are not the end of the world, in the end you will be able to create a suitable feeding regime.
Allocate more time to feed, so as not to rush anywhere, do not set goals for yourself immediately after feeding. Until you and the child get used to the process of feeding, it is worthwhile to implement it in a quiet room where no one interferes. Calmly and without haste prepare yourself, gently and gently take the child. Sit back comfortably, so that both
was comfortable. Be sure that you have an emotional connection between you - during feeding, look the child in the eyes, talk with him in a soothing voice and keep it closer to yourself.
If the child is busy with himself and does not want to take the chest, wait and try again after 5-10 minutes. If you are tense, this will give both of you a chance to calm down. It does not matter how you find the feeding process - successful or failed - ask your spouse to replace you from time to time to rest.
can excite a child, when he can not get enough milk and at the speed that he needs. You will get a vicious circle in which your anxiety and the child will upset more and more, until you lose the opportunity to feed.
Suppose your child is healthy and that you have tried different approaches, for example, changing the position when feeding or, if you are feeding from a bottle, have replaced the formula( according to the doctor's advice).What can you do if the feeding still remains problematic? Practical solutions are not suitable until you completely relax during feeding. If the feeding time turns into a psychological struggle, for example, the child eats too slowly or, conversely, too quickly, and then falls asleep without eating the prescribed standard, step back and objectively look at the whole process.
Ask yourself the following questions: am I waiting for the feeding time? Do I like to hold the baby in my arms while feeding? Does the kid feel calm and comfortable in my arms? When does he take a breast or bottle? Is the child satisfied when he cums to eat? If the answer to most questions is "no", then it's time to consider the psychological aspect of feeding. On with.345 are some ideas for creating an atmosphere of relaxation during feeding, useful both for breastfeeding and for artificial feeding.
HOW TO CONTACT WITH
In the early months, a big problem is the crying of a child. You were terribly anxious to hear his cry a few seconds after the birth, he was a signal that the baby was born, but now that he is at home, his repeated crying
can bring to despair. Try to remember that crying a child is the main way of communication, its primary language of communication and a sign of healthy development. In principle, you have to worry if the baby does not cry at all.
The crying of a child is a natural thing, and it does not mean that you did something wrong. Many parents blame themselves that the child cries, especially when it is small, as if it is a consequence of their actions. Try to avoid such negative thoughts.
Learn to communicate
If you think that the child is crying all the time, then you can easily overstrain yourself and get sick. In most cases, the main cause of your frustration is ignorance of what this crying means. You worry and panic, watching his malaise and not imagining what you can calm the baby. But as soon as you tune into his crying, you will begin to understand what he is trying to tell you. Always look for an explanation, since children seldom cry for the sake of actually crying.
If children's screaming tear the atmosphere, think about what it wants to tell you and how you can react:
♦ I'm hungry - feed.
♦ I'm hot( cold) - use a blanket or adjust the temperature in the room.
♦ I am wet - change the diaper.
♦ I'm bored - play around.
♦ I feel lonely - show signs of love and attention.
♦ I'm tired - shake, helping to fall asleep.
♦ I'm sick - go to the doctor.
The general theme of all the actions you take is that you need a child. Of course, the presence of a mother nearby will not stop crying, if he, for example, is hungry. But loving gentle touches will remove some of the discomfort, until "the food is ready."
Be patient
Each mother has her favorite "recipe" that helps to calm a crying child( some of them are shown on page 306).But namo Crying has a certain picture of
The peak period of crying will be the first three months of a child's life, most often children cry when they are 6-7 weeks old. Typical child crying occurs at the beginning of the evening, although the child can cry at other times of the day. Studies show that almost a quarter of all children have periods of constant crying, when there are no obvious causes for tears. Finally, there are no gender differences in relation to crying - boys and girls cry about equally long.
it is better to use a new offer for a sobbing baby than to sit helplessly beside it. Whichever way you choose, try it in a few weeks. It is unlikely that the new method will yield immediate results. Change the approach if there is no effect for 2-3 weeks.
Your self-confidence should play a role. If you are tense and anxious, picking up a crying child( which you will be at first), he will feel it and even be upset even more. He will cry harder, which, in turn, will cause you even more anxiety, and the spiral anxiety mother - the child will begin to quickly unwind. That's why it's very important to be calm when you calm a crying baby. Remind yourself that sobbing is just a way of saying that he needs the mother's love and care. If you become too tense, take a break. Divide the burden with your spouse or girlfriend, if possible, a few minutes of "distraction" will be sufficient to create a more positive attitude for you.
If a child's crying can be predicted and it occurs around the same time of the night, it is likely that the baby suffers from colic. However, if you are really worried that the child has unceasing pain, consult a doctor.