Re-marriage problems - remarriage

Do you remarry any features strikingly different from the first? Usually, the woman makes the choice of the second life partner even more consciously and carefully than the first. After all, the notions of what kind of family life will be, have ceased to be so idealistic as in youth. Now women pay more attention to the emotional and business qualities of a loved one, and do not rush into the pool of passion, only falling in love with appearance. And it seems that there is already some kind of idea about the current of family life, experience in relationships. .. Why are there problems again?

Differences in relation to

marriage There are several differences between the marriage of people who had never been married before and the marriage of a couple in which one of the partners already had experience of family life. These differences bring a number of problems:

Firstly, for some reason society takes a slightly different approach to remarriage. And the scope of the second wedding is usually much more modest than it was on the first. The optimism that both the newlyweds themselves and the people around them have in their marriage for the second time simply does not exist.

Secondly, when one partner had, once a family, he runs the risk of getting a strong opposition from his family in the autumn. And the elect's family does not want to marry a divorced woman either.

The main problems of remarriage

What should a woman do that divorced her first husband? No universal and suitable all recipes simply do not exist. Everyone should act as her heart tells her and as the situation requires.

And in general, decide for yourself whether you really need a second marriage. Even if the new relationship by leaps and bounds brings you closer to that. Maybe you do not need to experience fate again? After all, it is possible to live in a civil marriage. In fact, the stamp in the passport does not give anything, no guarantees.

1. Comparison of the former and current spouse of is a very, very dangerous mistake. Of course, from your memory, all the memories of the first husband, his merits and demerits, the pleasant and unpleasant events that you experienced together, have not gone anywhere. But never talk about all this when your current man is next to you. Remembering the positive qualities of her first husband, you can very much offend your loved one. He may seem that, in comparison with another man, he simply loses.
   If the memories that arise from time to time are extremely negative, you should not talk about it to your second husband. Do you really need his pity?
2. Children from the previous marriage .They quite often become the causes of problems, scandals and conflicts in a newly educated family. Every woman wants her child's father to be a kind, intelligent and strong person who can teach him a lot, help in difficult situations and protect from all evil. When a man does all this, a woman is very happy. But it is only necessary to appear certain problems between the child and the second husband, there are problems in the relations of the spouses themselves. A woman becomes like a child and begins to put forward everyone's favorite expression that a bad attitude towards children is due to the fact that his father is not his own. Why such stupid accusation? To the conflict, of course.
   Try to calm down and look at the situation from a different angle. The problem of fathers and children is eternal, and it does not depend on whether your husband made a child. Exactly the same problems at another time can happen and you and your baby. You're not going to file accusations yourself, are you? It's just absurd.
   Try to give your displeasure a clear wording. For example, tell me what makes you angry when your husband screams at the child without reason. Such phrases will no longer be perceived as acute as accusations.
3. Fear of possible rupture of .This is another distinguishing feature and the problem that remarriage has. Women begin to worry about what relatives and friends will think, if this one is already the second one, the family will collapse. Because of this, women suffer what they can not tolerate in any case: humiliation, insults and even beatings.

If the relationship is built on violence, maybe you should not try to keep such a marriage at any cost. Women who constantly live in stress become weak, complexed and not happy with life. Be sure to think carefully about whether you need to maintain a marriage in which violence reigns, even if it is the second in a row.

If you decide to marry a divorced man, you should very well appreciate his qualities as a person. After all, such a marriage is still a little riskier than a marriage in which both have never been married. Understand( or at least try) what kind of lessons a man has learned from his past family life and whether or not he ever did. If it was he who caused the divorce, such a person may not be the most suitable choice for you. All should take from their past relationships only benefits and lessons. They will help not to be mistaken next time and will learn how to build relationships.