How to treat the betrayal of her husband - we are experiencing betrayal of her husband

The life of the newlyweds at first is cloudless. Absolutely all newlyweds want their rainbow happiness last forever. But, unfortunately, not every family succeeds in love and harmony to live to a golden or diamond wedding. Undoubtedly, the most destructive blow to family happiness is inflicted by treacherous treachery.

At the time of betrayal cope with overwhelmed wrathful emotions, painful heartache and bitter resentment, not everyone can. Due to the peculiarities of the psyche( heightened emotionality and sensitivity), women are always hard at experiencing the infidelity of their spouses. Individuals who are too prone to nervous breakdowns, prolonged depression and suicide, in such cases are unlikely to be able to do without the help of a psychiatrist. But in the majority of the woman strong enough nature which in a condition to cope with the received stress independently or by means of moral support of faithful girlfriends. True, not many of them know how to treat a husband's betrayal in order to minimize all the negative consequences of the shock and quickly bring her mental state back to normal. We hope that our advice will help the beautiful half of humanity to come out worthy of a difficult life situation.

What not to do

If it so happened that you were confronted with the betrayal of your beloved husband, no matter how painful and bitterly from the news you received, do not allow yourself to fight in hysterics, desperately weep and make scenesjealousy, reproaching the weakly spouse in disgusting treason. Such actions you are unlikely to change for the better the situation, but with ease create an intolerable situation at home. The consequence of your scandalous behavior may be that the husband, brought to the extreme by family life, will gradually appear to be a real hell. You yourself will force him to seek a more peaceful pier in the form of saving comfort in the arms of a mistress. Such a dual and contradictory common sense can not last forever. Inevitably there will come a time when the spouse tired of constant reproaches and nervous tension will offer you to formalize the divorce. And it is unlikely that he will feel remorse, because you will make your cohabitation unbearable. And, surprisingly enough, in the mind of your unfaithful spouse, the sequence of all such unpleasant events( their cause and effect) is likely to be reversed. For the rest of his life he will be firmly convinced that he left you only because you are a very complex person and it's simply impossible to live with you.

Remember the children of

Before starting to roll up a grand scandal or hysterics to your husband, think about your children, because these cute and innocent creatures will become involuntary witnesses of unpleasant scenes. Each of your quarrels and biting insults, bitterly thrown at each other's address, will undoubtedly put a negative imprint on the child's mind.

Behave correctly

If this is the case, and for you the thunder of treason has thundered among the clear sky of family happiness, you can burst into tears, scream from impotence, or smash something that comes to your hand. Release steam in any ways, just to make you a little lighter. But, mind you, your husband should not see this at all.

As soon as the heart becomes a little easier, although it is unpleasant, but get information about the opponent. Perhaps this information will help you understand the underlying cause of a sudden connection.

Exit the situation

By and large, you have only two options for an exit from the current situation:

• Save the family for the sake of children;
• Get divorced.

The first option is only suitable for the case when the change of the husband can be justified. In other situations, trying to save a cracked relationship, you only exhaust yourself and your spouse, and only divorce will be a salvation for both of you. It's pointless to be angry and complain. Simply accept the fact of treason and, having calmed down a bit, tell your husband that you know the truth. Try to calmly listen to all his explanations.

Do not regret anything at the time of parting. Know that from that moment a new life begins for you, in which there is no place for betrayal. And the sooner you close the door to an unpleasant past, the sooner you will open a new door to a happy life.